# Worry
Care less about what doesn't matter
We have a friend who worries herself sick. She worries about what people think about her, whether she is a good parent, does she take good care of her dog, and whether is there anything she needs to fix in the house. We all worry about those things to some extent, but Liz is making herself unhappy with worry, and her list is much longer. My husband is an excellent calming agent for her because his motto in life is, “Oh well, it is what it is.” Whenever she starts her worry list, John starts shooting them down as if they are out skeet shooting. Here is the list and John’s solutions.
Putting the Brakes on Overthinking
I talk and write a lot about why we overthink and ruminate so much, and keep thinking about all the worst parts of our lives, all the things that bring us pain. At the most basic level, we stay hooked on our thoughts because thinking gives us a sense of control. It makes us feel like we’re doing something for ourselves, working on our own behalf.
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