# Selfhelp
Navigating and Correcting the Difficulties of a One-Sided Relationship
“That sounds pretty one-sided,” my friend said after I’d described an interaction with my partner that was much like many of our interactions. She said it so casually, as if she was telling me her shirt was red. Yet, that day, it struck me like something much deeper. It struck me like it was truth.
Insecure in Love: Addressing Retroactive Jealousy in Relationships
The man who is now my husband has a type, one he’s rarely strayed from. Except for me. When we first began dating and I heard about or happened to see one of his ex-partners, I found it maddening. How could he have been into those women, but now into me? I wondered.
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Breaking Free from the Cycle of Self-Criticism
My face was red, but I hoped my co-host, Kerry, couldn’t see it. Well, that was awful, I told myself. It was our first day recording together for our podcast, “Breaking Free From Narcissistic Abuse.” I’d been so excited at joining Kerry as a co-host just a few hours before we’d begun recording, but now I felt like I’d made a terrible mistake.
Snot-tastic Symphony: The Musical Story of Post-Nasal Drip
An amusing exploration into the world of runny noses and post-nasal drip. Ah, runny noses. We all know them and love them, right? Wrong! A runny nose can be a real nuisance, and it’s essential to understand how to handle it effectively to ensure you don’t end up with a blocked nose. Let’s discuss the causes of rhinorrhoea, how to prevent it, and how to survive the snotty serenade of a runny nose!
Political Polarization on the Rise in U.S. as Criticism Fuels Echo Chambers
Over 50% of young people are single, according to the Washington Post. Dale Carnegie's #1 principle advises against criticizing, condemning, or complaining because these actions are unlikely to cause the individual being criticized to change his ways. Instead, it will cause resentment and hostility.
How To Overcome Your Weakness
There were times in my life when I really hated myself. Everything I was, everything I did was just never enough. Social media was getting bloated with pictures of people who were everything I was not: confident company souls, living the happiest days of their life, flaunting their perfect imperfections like golden medals on their chests.
Comedian Madison Malloy Writes New Self-Help Book
Like many people impacted by the pandemic, Madison Malloy chose to leave behind her career and pivot to something more fulfilling. A former Wall Street analyst, she became a stand-up comic and now hosts her own self-help/business podcast, "Next to Madison," while creating and producing television shows.
Intermittent Fasting: Top 5 Mistakes That People Make
Three years ago and many broken keyboards later I started my blogging career covering health and fitness. Since then I have written about bitcoin, elections, Kanye, TikTok, Harvard corruption and the age of consent in Japan. A real eclectic mix.
Opinion: Words of wisdom from the greatest graduation speech of all time
Commencement addressPhoto byPhoto by Joshua Hoehne on Unsplash. David Foster Wallace gave a commencement speech at Kenyon College in 2005, called 'This is Water' where he addressed the importance of awareness and perceptiveness of others. He believed that simple awareness and proper education can help people become well-adjusted to the world around them. He adopts a witty, personal, and significant tone in order to accomplish his lofty intent.
Toxic Relationships in a Nutshell
Photo byEnvato Elements Purchased Image License RNUYEKCMXP. Being in a toxic relationship does not mean you are a bad or toxic person. Recognizing it means you are aware enough to see that you do not work well together as a couple, and you and your partner may very well bring out the worst in each other. Sometimes, one partner causes toxicity, such as with a narcissist. In some cases, when both partners agree they are committed to making the relationship work, they can seek professional help and resolve the problems, but in most cases, it is best to break-up and move on. In any case, it is good to be educated, even if you are single, to spot the red flags when and if they occur.
Recognizing and Resolving Triggers
Photo byEnvato Elements Purchased Image License PS4F9ZACUN. Triggers can adversely affect relationships. I know because I had many relationships fail until I finally learned to process and express my emotions when triggered. Before I learned to calm myself down, I needed to understand what being triggered meant. The word trigger indicates we have been sent into a negative mindset. This does not do it justice, though. It felt as if someone pulled a trigger on a gun and shot me when I was triggered emotionally. It can be extremely painful emotionally and even cause deep-seated anger. In reality, triggers are messages to help you heal. Triggers caused me to run from relationships and isolate myself.
Combatting the ‘Holiday Blues’
Be mindful of tips to avoid getting the holiday blues.Photo byVNS Health. By Susan Clayton Meyer, Program Manager, Behavioral Health at VNS Health. HEALTH - We all know the stereotype of the “perfect” winter holiday season—family coming together from across the country, extravagant gifts, huge meals with everyone around the table, decorations, parties, social gatherings, and of course the requisite perfect winter weather. However, life is a lot more complicated than a Hallmark holiday movie (for starters, how DOES the hair of those Hallmark movie heroines always stay so perfect in the snow?).
Cast Yourself as the Hero of Your Story
We all know someone who is stuck in their own victim cycle and we cringe when we see them coming because we know their woe is me attitude will suck us down into their pity party. Think about the victims in your life and how you react to their storytelling technique.
Ask Your Higher Self For Advice
In case you don’t know, you have all the wisdom you need. If you didn’t already know, your higher self is the real you. It is typically referred to as the soul in religion. You might be aware of the concept that your body is merely the vessel that this higher self occupies. Therefore, it is this self that is the real you; not your physical body or mind. However, due to the presence of the mind, and the strong connection of our bodies with the Earth and the overall physical reality, it becomes very difficult to make that distinction.