Ellie The Pink Elephant - My New Children's Story
Meet Ellie and tag along through the jungle, to the bay where she even turned pink that day. Ellie’s story is about growing beyond what we are born with and coming into our person.
Permission to Like Yourself
Is there someone in your life who frequently critiques you and often points out what you’re doing or have done wrong...how you should improve? Is there someone close to you who gives you the feeling that maybe they don’t quite like you as you are?
Reigniting the Spark in Your Long-Term Relationship
When we think of virtues, we usually think of the classics: wisdom, compassion, humility, patience, fortitude, courage, kindness, gratitude, and the like. But there are a number of underrated, less-discussed virtues that are vitally important in creating a good life. One that rarely makes the top-ten lists is curiosity. When it comes to virtues, curiosity gets short shrift and sometimes has to defend its right to even identify as a virtue. But curiosity deserves our recognition and a place on the greatest-hits list of virtuous qualities. Not only is it vitally important for creating a good life, but also for maintaining lasting love relationships.
Opinion: Negative Mindsets cause Frustration and Misunderstandings
Their world may be upside down. A seemingly absurd or contradictory statement or proposition which when investigated may prove to be well founded or true. And this is what internet trolls do day in and day out — make statements or comments about what others say, claiming they are absurd, stupid or untrue, when in fact, when looked at closely, the original statement is true! The internet trolls somehow have created their own schizophrenic sense of reality, which, as it so happens is mostly upside down.
Do You Have the Courage to Be A Real Friend?
Have you ever told a friend about a deeply upsetting experience and then had the friend tell you all the reasons why that experience won’t be upsetting at some point in the future? Have you ever been that friend who offers that advice?
A look into the concept of highly sensitive people and empaths.
Do you ever feel as if you can feel the vibes of the people around you? Can you sense quickly if something is off before anyone else does? Are you in some way easily stimulated by sounds or scents? Then you may be considered an Empath or Highly Sensitive Person.
Just Because It's Family Doesn't Mean It Isn't Toxic
We are buried in “shoulds” when it comes to what we’re supposed to do with family members who treat us badly. We’re taught that we should feel grateful for family—no matter what. The fact that a relationship feels toxic or emotionally abusive is irrelevant; it’s family, so it’s sacred.
Why It's So Important to Feel All Our Feelings
This past weekend I witnessed an event that was both utterly simple and utterly profound, an interaction that beautifully demonstrates what we really need to feel OK. I was sitting at an outdoor café, when what appeared to be a family of three: a mom, dad, and their 9-ish-year-old daughter (who was carrying a wrapped present) approached and stopped at the brownstone just next to the table where I was sitting. It looked like they were going to the same party as several other young families who’d entered the brownstone carrying presents in the last half hour. But at the bottom of the stoop, the little girl started crying. From the look of her face, which was red and splotchy, it looked like it wasn’t the first cry of the morning. The girl then laid down on the sidewalk, now sobbing, and screeched that she didn’t want to go to the party; she hated parties, she wasn’t going to know anyone there besides “Molly,” and no one was going to talk to her because no one ever did.
Relationships Devoid Of Empathy
Several years ago I was in a relationship with someone who had absolutely no empathy. I would talk to him about my feelings and would receive absolutely no response. I would hug him and he would half-heartedly hug me back and it felt completely empty.
When It's Always Someone Else's Fault
Bill, a client, came to see me because his wife “never takes ownership of her own behavior.” Bill is married to a blamer. No matter what difficulty she experiences, there’s always someone or something else to blame for it, but not her. As he put it (with exasperation), “She is never, ever, ever, but I mean ever the problem!” Bill felt a lot of resentment and residual rage toward his wife as a result of this issue, but also felt unable to speak about it with her with any degree of honesty. When he did try and point out, gently, where she might be part of the problem, she would accuse him of not being empathic not supporting her, and not being a good husband. “All I want from you is to know you’re on my team.”
Parenting 101: Love is In the Details
Pam, a client, was crying tears of happiness and relief, but also sadness. The man she’d been dating for six months had asked, “How do you feel about what’s happening in the news, given what happened to you in middle school?”
Editorial: Kindness Doesn’t Cost a Dime
As we continue living life under these “new normal” guidelines, emotions seem to be taking a toll on a lot of people. It’s difficult to fathom that so much of society has forgotten what it means to be kind. There seems to be more judgement and hatred than before this pandemic descended upon us. It really did bring out the worst in some folks. What a shame.
Empathy Requires More Effort For Binge Drinkers
According to the CDC, binge drinking is a serious but preventable problem. This habit is a pattern that increases blood alcohol concentration (BAC) to 0.08g/dl or above. It occurs when a man consumes five alcoholic drinks and a woman has four alcoholic drinks in about 2 hours.