# Abusive relationships
The Profile of People Who Are Romantically Attracted to Narcissists and Why the Relationship Works
Although partners of narcissists feel loved when a narcissist bestows caring words and gestures, is madly possessive, or buys expensive gifts, they doubt his or her sincerity and question whether it’s really manipulation, pretense, or a manufactured “as if” personality. They feel tense and drained from unpredictable tantrums, attacks, false accusations, criticism, and unjustified indignation about small or imaginary slights. At first, there are minor criticisms that later escalate to narcissistic abuse.
Narcissistic cycle of abuse: my story
Have you ever found yourself in a relationship that started off amazingly, but eventually turned sour?. Maybe it began with small arguments that gradually escalated into bigger fights, or perhaps over time life changed and you found yourself isolated, living in fear and controlled by your partner.
Trusting Your Own Experience in an Abusive Relationship
Living with a toxic person can be crazy making. It can make you doubt your own experience. A toxic person will make you feel like you are the crazy one. They always proclaim that they wouldn’t have to behave the way they do if only you would “behave” and do things “right”.
Narcissists Play Mind Games to Get What They Want
To “know your enemy” is essential in dealing with a manipulator. Manipulation may be overt, such as threats, intimidation, blaming, and shaming, or it may be hidden, veiled aggression. Narcissists and sociopaths can be especially dangerous.
Power plays in relationships.
Relationships can be beautiful, but sometimes they can also be complicated and tricky to navigate. Whether you're in a romantic relationship, a friendship, or a business relationship, there are bound to be times when the power plays in relationships cause a problem.
Recognizing the Red Flags of Violence Against Women
Most female victims of homicide are killed by a man they know. The statistics speak for themselves. In the United States approximately three women are killed every day by an intimate partner. The statistics for 2018 for example, show us that 92% of female victims were killed by a man they knew. This includes husbands, ex-husbands, boyfriends, and ex-boyfriends.
Signs Someone is “Playing the Victim”
Not all victims are manipulative. Feeling like a victim has taken on negative connotations, but there are people who ”play the victim” in order to manipulate you. This is a favorite defense of narcissists and other personality-disordered people. In some other instances, this behavior is learned as a child because as a way to get needs met. I refer to them here as “actors.” Sometimes, actors act consciously and more often it’s unconscious and automatic, like most of our defense mechanisms.
Dealing with a Narcissistic Relationship
Leaving the relationship isn’t an option for everyone. Some partners lack the courage, but many don’t hesitate to say they love the narcissist and prefer to stay, if only they were more appreciated and respected. For other people, their priorities are parenting, financial concerns, co-parenting with an ex, or maintaining family ties. Whatever the choice, rebalancing the power in the relationship facilitates either option and restores mental and physical health.
Erasing the Stigma: Men Can Be in Abusive Relationships Too
Abusive relationships are a serious issue that affect people of all genders, but men often face additional barriers. “That’s abuse. You’re being abused,” I said halfway through a session with a client.
Narcissus and Echo: The Heartbreak of Relationships with Narcissists
The poignant myth of Narcissus and Echo crystallizes the problem of relationships with narcissists. They were tragic characters in Ovid’s Metamorphoses. Sadly, both partners feel insufficiently loved but are locked in a painful drama. Yet, the narcissist feels irreproachable and blames his or her partner, who too often readily agrees.
Dynamics of an Abusive Relationship
Many people are still unaware of the dynamics of an abusive relationship. In the 1950’s domestic abuse was not considered a crime. It was considered a family matter. And law enforcement would not get involved.
Healing from abusive relationships
When meeting a new romantic partner, you would never anticipate ever being a victim of abuse. But unfortunately, in some relationships, things slowly change as your romantic partner becomes your abusive partner. Does this sound familiar? If you are in an abusive relationship or have recently left one, now is the time to find out how to heal from these toxic relationships.
Signs of Emotional Abuse
Some signs of emotional abuse are so subtle that you might not see them as abuse. But the effects can be deeply damaging. Would you even recognize the signs that you were being emotionally abused?
Grandmother lied to 19-year-old granddaughter about reason for wanting to borrow $1,800 when she already owes her $3,500
Apparently, a grandmother has no qualms about lying to her granddaughter to get money from her that she says is a loan but hasn't paid back previous money she borrowed. The granddaughter has taken to a Reddit post to explain the situation.
Changing the Dynamics in an Abusive Relationship
Photo byTimur Weber (Affiliate links benefit author if a purchase is made) The answer is doing the complete opposite of what comes naturally. If you’re in an abusive relationship, you may not realize you probably have codependent symptoms that encourage the dysfunctional dynamics in these relationships, which in turn worsen codependency.
Abuse that is Allowed is Repeated
When we don’t set boundaries, we're setting a precedent. We’re sending the message that we’re okay with someone’s behavior. It’s the same as socializing a toddler or a dog. Bad behavior allowed is condoning it, and it will be repeated.
The Danger of a Covert Narcissist
Man's shadowCoCreatr (Affiliate links benefit author if a puchase is made) You may be fooled by a covert narcissist, but they're every bit as much narcissists as the stereotypical extroverted narcissists. Some narcissists may emphasize one personality trait over others. A person with an outgoing personality might always showoff and need to be the center of attention, while another narcissist might be a vindictive bully, an entitled playboy, an imperious authoritarian, or an exacting know-it-all, as articulated by Madonna, “Listen, everyone is entitled to my opinion.”
Identifying the Signs of Narcissistic Abuse
Abused Womanby Darlene Lancer (Affiliate links benefit author if a puchase is made) Narcissists don't really love themselves. Actually, they're driven by shame. It's the idealized image of themselves, which they convince themselves they embody, that they admire. But deep down, narcissists feel the gap between the façade they show the world and their shame-based self. They work hard to avoid feeling that shame. This gap is true for other codependents, as well, but a narcissist uses destructive defense mechanisms that damage relationships and their loved ones' self-esteem.
Poem: The End
He asked me to call him every time I left the house, and when I returned home,. He got mad at me for having lunch with my friends,. He called me vulgar names for innocently talking to another man,
Symptoms and Treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder
sad woman (Affiliate links benefit author if a purchase is made)George Hodan. Like all personality disorders, Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) exists on a continuum, from mild to severe. It affects women more than men and about two percent of the U.S. population. BPD is usually diagnosed in young adulthood when there has been a pattern of impulsivity and instability in relationships, self-image, and emotions. They may use alcohol, food, drugs, or other addiction to try to self-medicate their pain, but it only exacerbates it. To diagnose BPD, at least five of the following symptoms must be enduring and present in a variety of areas: