Man assumes he is in a committed relationship after two promising dates
**This is a work of nonfiction based on actual events as told to me by a close friend, who experienced them firsthand; used with permission. Human connection has always been important, but with the advent of online dating sites, it’s easier than ever to find a potential mate.
Opinion: An Insecure Person Will Attempt to Change Their Partner
Many of the men I dated enjoyed the idea of me. They liked how free-spirited I was and how goofy I could be even in public… in the beginning. As the relationship moved forward, it would change. I needed to settle down, be quieter, and wear a certain type of clothing that was more in line with what they liked.
Opinion: Behaviors Must Be Changed To Stop Reaching Out To A Romantic Ex
When I was in college, I went through a very painful breakup. My boyfriend, Trevor, didn’t want to be in a monogamous relationship and decided to cut things off after we had been together for almost a year.
Opinion: Love Will Not Have The Power To “Fix” A Narcissist With An Addiction
Many years ago, I poured my heart and soul into someone who did not deserve any part of me, as many people do when they fall for a toxic/narcissistic romantic partner. These days I tell my story to help other victims of narcissistic abuse realize that they are not alone and hopefully guide them in their healing journey.
Opinion: Lovebombing: It is Always Manipulative Or Are There Exceptions?
Love bombing has become very common when talking about someone coming on too strong during the beginning stages of a relationship. This tactic is most often recognized as the first stage in the narcissistic/sociopathic cycle as their first manipulative technique used to overwhelm you with words of affirmation, affection, and gifts.
Opinion: Tall-Telling Signs A Romantic Prospect Is Still Seeing Other People
When I was sixteen I had a huge crush on my neighbor that lived down the street from my house. Over the years we had always waved at each other from across the street and would see each other at our small-town events such as the Fourth of July firework show that the city put on.
Opinion: Victims Often Unaware Of Being Trapped In Narcissistic Trauma Bond
Recently I was doing a session with a client trying to work through the aftermath of her relationship with an abusive narcissist. Throughout our session, she kept returning to the same thought over and over again.
Opinion: Toxic People Manipulate Their Partners Under the Guise of “Love”
Time and time again, I have witnessed toxic behaviors completely dismissed under the premise of love. “Oh, he is controlling because he loves me so much.”. “She is insecure and terrified of losing our relationship that she lashes out at me, it’s not her fault….”
"This is all terrible," I thought to myself. I was scrolling through a 94-page word document full of poems I've written since I published my last poetry book (called, I Like It Cuz It's Pink). I both loved and hated my last book of poems. Loved, because I worked and re-worked and edited and re-edited them to the best of my ability. Hated, because I rarely like anything I write, and my book was, in hindsight, not that good. But art is rarely good, and instead of ruminating on what I wrote and hated, I stubbornly keep writing, which is great, expect sometimes I hate everything new that I've written as well. "They read like songs without music," I told Mike one day. Not necessarily a bad thing, but have you ever just read song lyrics without knowing the song? Most read as slightly incoherent at best.
Father with Autism Distraught After Ex Plans to Move Daughter Across the Country
Is it ever justified to separate a good father from his children?. Being a parent is already a difficult enough responsibility, but this responsibility can get compounded by trying to navigate co-parenting with an ex-spouse.
Opinion: A Partner Will Leave A Relationship If Toxic Traits Are Not Addressed And Changed
For over a decade, I went through relationship after relationship that followed the same script. I would jump in headfirst, we would fall in “love,” and then anywhere from six months to a year in, I would slowly distance myself and eventually move on.
Opinion: Victims Lose Their Sense Of Self After Dating a Narcissist
Often victims of narcissistic abuse share similar stories after they have left the relationship. “I’m trying to discover my sense of self again….”. “He broke my soul, I left without a support system….’
Opinion: When Life Becomes Hectic It Is Incredibly Difficult To Keep Romance Alive
People in long-term relationships often say that love inevitably fades over time. When I was younger, I doubted these claims and thought that if I found the “right person,” things would always be exhilarating. As I grew up, I discovered the unfortunate truth that things could easily become routine and less exciting, especially in a long-term relationship that spans over years or decades.
Opinion: Relationship Commandments Are Agreed-Upon Rules To Improve Quality Of Life
A few weeks ago, I visited with a friend who brought up something called “relationship commandments.”. “Relationship Commandments?” I was perplexed but utterly fascinated by what came next.
After a rod went through his skull, this man was not the same since
Cabinet-card portrait of brain-injury survivor Phineas P. Gage (1823–1860), shown holding the tamping iron which injured him; image croppedPhoto byWikimedia Common; Public Domain.
Opinion: Saying “I Love You” Is A Relationship Milestone
There are certain milestones that happen in almost every relationship. The first time you hold hands, the first time you kiss, the first time you spend the night at each other’s place, etc.
Opinion: Healing After A Toxic Relationship Often Requires Victims To Change Their Inner Selves
There are trials in life that can challenge us to the point where we want to give up. One such experience that can cause us to question the very reality in which we live is when we reach the bitter end of a toxic relationship.
Opinion: Small Lies Will End An Otherwise Healthy Relationship
Everyone tells little white lies in their relationships…. right?. White lies have become acceptable for some people. Still, I know from personal experience that any relationship I have had in the past that included lying always ended swiftly because we couldn’t rebuild the trust.
Opinion: Micro-Cheating Is The Step Before Infidelity
Cheating in a long-term relationship doesn’t usually start with one abrupt decision. It is a drawn-out process, and there can be years of small choices that are made before they eventually lead to infidelity.
Opinion: Toxic People Target Victims With No Boundaries
When I was younger, I had absolutely no boundaries in place. Anyone who came into my life was welcomed with open arms, and many amazing people entered through those imaginary doors.