# Emotional abuse
Opinion: Stopping Narcissistic Triangulation in Its Tracks
It is their ego and need for control that matter to narcissists, so they will use triangulation to manipulate you for their own gain. You need to recognize that narcissists do not care about other people's emotions, and they will use this behavior to protect their power. It is crucial that you learn how to stop this behavior if you are experiencing it. Here are some ways to break free.
$1 Million Award and Three Bullies
Our children must be protected when they go to school, and we must speak up. But who is listening?. A California teen was recently awarded $1 million after winning a bullying case against her former Middle School.
The Attraction to Abusive Relationships and the Way to Change Them
Abusive relationship (Affiliate links benefit author if a purchase is made)Timor Weber. The secret is doing the complete opposite of what comes naturally. If you’re in an abusive relationship, you may not realize you probably have codependent symptoms that encourage the dysfunctional dynamics in these relationships and in turn worsen codependency.
The Achilles Heel that Narcissists and Abusers Hide
You won’t guess abusers’ dirty little secret – the one thing narcissists and abusers don’t want you to know. In fact, they find it so shameful that most of them won’t admit it even to themselves. They hide it behind their abuse and bluster, their braggadocio, and their arrogance. Researchers consider them to have defensive self-esteem.
17 Warning Signs of Emotional Abuse
I’m sitting in the passenger seat of my car, and he’s driving. Every single word out of his mouth is a gut punch. He’s used the hour drive to enumerate my faults of which there are, apparently, many. It’s character assassination, but I have no words — only shock. This person is supposed to love me. He’s supposed to love me, and he thinks I am, deep down, a terrible person. He hasn’t stopped for a single second outlining all the reasons why.
Challenges in Handling Narcissistic Abuse
Abuse is about having power over someone. Abusers and narcissists typically want to feel superior and to control and dominate. The facts get in the way. When you react or argue, you're giving away your power. They provoke and use verbal abuse and/or violence to accomplish this. They're only interested in winning; thus abusers deny any responsibility and shift blame you. Their motive is to lift their self-esteem.
Her husband gave her the silent treatment for six months
**This article is based on nonfiction by actual events that were shared with me by my friend; used with permission. My friend and I were neighbors and over the years she and I grew into close friends. We enjoyed each other's company and many of the same things. One afternoon I saw her sitting out on her balcony and she looked really sad so I grabbed a pitcher of iced tea and two glasses and went to join her.
The tent in the frozen attic
**This article is based on nonfiction by actual events that were witnessed firsthand by me; used with permission. It was the late fall when my ex-husband chose to stop taking his mental health medication. He would pace around the house and tell me weird things but the most frightening thing that he did was preach my funeral loudly to the household.
The Unconscious Force that Drives Narcissists and Their Abusive Behavior
Narcissists can be charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. They can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, competitive, selfish, obnoxious, cruel, and vindictive. You can fall in love with their charming side and be destroyed by their dark side. It can be baffling, but it all makes sense when you understand what drives them. That awareness protects you from their games, lies, and manipulation.
Mistakes and Strategies in Confronting Abuse
Sad woman and Statements of AbuseGeorge Hodan/Darlene Lancer. It's estimated that between 50 and 80 percent of adults have experienced emotional abuse. Abuse is about having power over someone. Abusers typically want to dominate to feel superior and in control. To them, communication is not about understanding. It’s a win-lose game. They use verbal abuse and/or violence to accomplish this. They’re frequently self-centered, impatient, unreasonable, insensitive, unforgiving, lack empathy, and are often jealous, suspicious, and withholding.
Confronting Projection: Narcissists’ and Abusers’ Primary Weapon
Projection is a defense mechanism commonly used by abusers, including people with narcissistic or borderline personality disorder and addicts. Basically, they say, “It’s not me, it’s you!” When we project, we are defending ourselves against unconscious impulses or traits, either positive or negative, that we’ve denied in ourselves. Instead, we attribute them to others. Our thoughts or feelings about someone or something are too uncomfortable to acknowledge. In our mind, we believe that the thought or emotion originates from that other person.
Sibling Bullying and Abuse: A Hidden Epidemic
Sibling abuse is the most common but least reported abuse in the family. Prevalence is higher than spousal or child abuse combined with consequences well into adulthood similar to parent-child abuse. Up to 80 percent of youth experience some form of sibling maltreatment; yet, it’s been called the “forgotten abuse.”  Therapists also frequently overlook it.
The Anguish and Hope for Loved Ones of People with Borderline Personality Disorder
Caring about someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) tosses you on a roller coaster ride from being loved and lauded to abandoned and bashed. Being a borderline (having BPD) is no picnic, either. You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time and in severe cases on the border between reality and psychosis. Your illness distorts your perceptions causing antagonistic behavior and making the world a perilous place. The pain and terror of abandonment and feeling unwanted can be so great that suicide feels like a better choice.
Narcissus and Echo: The Heartbreak of Relationships with Narcissists
The poignant myth of Narcissus and Echo crystallizes the problem of relationships with narcissists. They were tragic characters in Ovid’s Metamorphoses. Sadly, both partners feel insufficiently loved but are locked in a painful drama. Yet, the narcissist feels irreproachable and blames his or her partner, who too often readily agrees.