Do you have a fear of people? Do you struggle to deal with certain people or situations? Then I'm happy to inform you that I have some wonderful news for you. You don't have to be shy, insecure, or afraid of being judged at every turn.
Winning the battle against shyness takes time and work, but it's well worth it because the end result is increased confidence and self-esteem. Wake up feeling good about yourself, ready to face the world with confidence and security, knowing that shyness will not stop you from reaching your goals.
Hundreds of books have been written on how to overcome shyness and build confidence, but there are a few tactics that everyone can use. Here are six strategies to help you overcome your shyness:
1. As soon as you wake up, stand in front of a mirror and declare aloud, "I feel fantastic!" I'm in great shape! "I'm in great shape!" Repeat this mantra 10 times a day, every day, until it becomes embedded in your subconscious mind. Start by locking yourself in the bathroom if you're feeling self-conscious. The end product will wow you.
2. Have a positive attitude toward oneself. Make a good impression. Dress up more frequently. This provides you with a boost of self-assurance and self-esteem. Simply knowing that you look well will enhance your confidence and reinforce to others that there are aspects of you worth learning about.
3. At least once a day, take a chance. It's energizing, and facing your concerns by taking risks can help you gain confidence and self-esteem. Begin with little risks and worries and work your way up to bigger challenges. There isn't anything you can't accomplish. Be confident in the knowledge that change will only help you grow and improve your self-esteem.
4. Let others know you're shy whether you're in a one-on-one conversation or with a bigger group of people. This stops people from misinterpreting you, and they are significantly more likely to include you in the conversation rather than leaving you to listen and wish you could contribute.
Many people, like myself, find it difficult to follow a conversation in a noisy environment. If you're experiencing trouble, let us know and move so that we can hear you. People like honesty and vulnerability, and as a result, you will attract more honest people into your life.
5. Everyone encounters rejection at some point in their lives. It is unusual that you are the one who is rejected. Remember that everyone has various likes and dislikes if you are refused, such as if you ask someone out on a date. You might be drawn to one type of person but not to another. The same applies to other folks and you are probably just not their type. That in no way diminishes your worth. Accept it and know you'll get through it. Never take things personally, and remember that people reject you because of their own preferences, not because of who you are. You have the same right to reject people based on your preferences.
6. Participate in things that make you feel excited and good about yourself, or begin a pastime that relaxes you. Gardening, Tai Chi, and Karate are all examples of this. Take some classes, learn to play or master a musical instrument, or learn to sing. Take a chance and do something that interests you. Exploring things that excite you is an excellent antidote to shyness.