Teen bride refuses to shower or comb her hair on her wedding day: 'I just didn't feel like it'

Tracey Folly

*This is a work of nonfiction based on actual events I experienced firsthand; used with permission.

It was an uncommonly warm day in September, and it was my last day as a single woman. I was both an adult and a child, getting married at the age of nineteen. Legal to wed, just not advisable. It was one of the worst decisions of my life, but that's the subject of many other stories.

It's no secret that wedding days can be stressful. Between making sure everything is running smoothly and keeping yourself calm, there's a lot to think about. So, in the midst of all that stress, I completely forgot to shower or comb my hair on my wedding day.

By the time I realized I should jump in the shower, it was way too late. I probably wouldn't have showered anyhow. I just didn't feel like it.

I didn't feel like doing anything. In retrospect, I should have backed out of the wedding at the last minute. It would have saved me years of anguish.

We didn't have a big traditional church wedding. Instead, we opted for a casual gathering in my mother-in-law's garden.

Still, we had around 100 invited guests, and I wore a white dress. I probably should have taken a shower and combed my hair.

Looking back, I'm not sure why I didn't think to do those things. Maybe it was because I was so caught up in the moment, or maybe I just didn't want to waste any time. Either way, I ended up being a sweaty, disheveled mess by the end of the day.

I may not have been the most beautiful bride in the world, but I wasn't the happiest, either. All in all, I have to say my outward appearance reflected my conflicted inner self quite well. I was a hot mess inside and out.

Thankfully, my husband didn't seem to mind too much or even notice. But still, it would have been nice to have been a little more presentable for our wedding photos, even if we didn't hire a professional photographer.

Years later, when I look back on my wedding day, I still can't believe I didn't take a shower. But then again, it's just another reminder of how naive and confused I was at the time.

Besides, from the look of my husband's stringy greasy long hair, I don't think he showered either.

I guess that makes me feel a little better about it at least. Still, it's certainly one wedding day experience I won't forget. I wish I could.

My unwashed hair wasn't the worst thing about that day. At least I can look back on it and smile. What happened after that day was the real tragedy. But again, that's a story for another time.

It wasn't the happiest wedding I've attended, but it was mine and it will always be remembered. No matter how much I wish otherwise, my unwashed hair will always be a reminder of my not-so-happy wedding.

I bet you wouldn't even consider skipping the shower on your wedding day. Would you? Comments are welcome.

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