4 things to tell your children before you die.

Tomi Marie Cook


I want to start this off light, there are certain things we all need to hear. No matter how old we are, and we want to hear those things from our parents.

No matter the age, we're never too young or to old to hear these 4 important things I am about to share with you all.

Before we get into it, this article doesn't only apply to parents, maybe you’re a soon to be parent or you want to have kids in the future.
Or maybe you’re an aunt or uncle, cousin or you have friends with kids or maybe your job involves being around kids weather your a teacher or work in a environment with kids and young teens.

Imagine what our world would be like if everyday parents or your role models were sharing these messages to our younger generation.

1. Thank you for being in my life, you give my life a purpose and bring me happiness.

Telling a child or teen or anyone that there's nothing more valuable in life then the relationship you have with them.
Making them feel appreciated and loved.

The relationships we build together brings us purpose and happiness along with joy. The purpose of parenting is like any other feeling I have felt before, giving someone life and raising them to be a person. This brings a whole new level of responsibility along with happiness to my life.

Tell your children this every single day, let them know that you love them and they bring you great joy and meaning to your life. Let them know they have enriched your world x100.

2. ALWAYS TELL THEM "I LOVE YOU" in every moment ❤

Everyone needs to receive love and be told they are loved and especially affirmation to always support them in their walk of life. And it's especially important to get that from their parents and guardians.

Children look at their parents and surrounding role models (aunts uncles, guardians and grandparents) for example. They look for that as a binding and security of unconditional love. A bond so great that it's so unconditional for them.

It's a challenging world to be in and to be a child who is brought into this world without love it's not fair. Every soul needs to hear the word I LOVE YOU.

3. Always say you’re sorry for anything you've said or anything you've done.

Saying sorry weather it's for something you've said or didn't say or something you've done or didn't do. This can go along way into making that bond stronger and that sense of security in a relationship.

Most of the time we immediately think of children needing to say sorry for something they have done wrong or not meeting expectations or doing something bad.
But what about adults when they get or do things wrong.

When an adult says for their mistakes, it teaches the child valuable lessons in life and humility, making amends asking for forgiveness while building trust in the relationship.

4. I'M PROUD OF YOU, I'm proud of who you are, I'm proud of what you do.

In life we are always striving to be more, get more and do more. Often times children grow up to think they need to build up to certain standards in order to receive love from their parents. They look for that gratification of their parents being proud of them, trying constantly to please their parents and receive appreciation.

Structuring our children now with social media, the news and advertising are all working hard to teach young minds that they need to be more and do more in order to receive a good job or well done.
It's our jobs to tell our children in our life that we are proud of them for who they are and what they do no matter what, even if it's a small job well done.

They need to know that no matter what they do or don't do their parents won't love them more or less. They are perfect just the way they are.

This gives children the mindset that they can strive in their life and their parents will always be proud of them no matter what. This also gives them the emotional foundation to follow their hearts desire to be whatever they choose to be, do and experience in this world.
Not just for validation or acceptance or just the joy of it.

If you are a parent and you don't tell this to your children often you are not doing it right, you need to do better and show your kid or kids that you love and appreciate them no matter what, even when they drive you crazy constantly doing things you ask them not to do like do the dishes or pick up after themselves.
Tell them you love them before you leave out the door or even the room, tell them they are doing a great job no matter what they are trying to do their best. They are showing efforts you need to do this too.

The more you give them the more they do, the more you say the more they feel.

You can change your children’s mood by just saying one of these 4 things and showing them how much they mean to you in these moments and showing them that they are appreciated for their actions.

The more that you read, the more things you will know.

The more that you learn, the more places you will go. Dr. Seuss

You are beautiful just the way you are, you are worthy, you are loves, you are the best thing that could ever happen to me.

I will always love you and I will always be here for you.

Another quote to leave you all off on a good and happy note.

“Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive that is youer than you.

You are out of this world.

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