And you deserve to. Here’s how.
There is so much you can do with your life. If you knew you were going to die tomorrow, would you still believe you’ve done enough? Probably not.
Whatever you’re doing right now, there is always more to it. There is always another level you can reach.
I came to the realization a few years ago in my own life that there is so much more I can be doing. I wasn’t really playing all-out. All of us have more potential, but tapping into that potential can be challenging.
Here’s a few thoughts on how you can do more with your life.
Take an interest, and turn it into a habit
I used to have many interests: music, business, dating, nightclubs. I never took any of them seriously. Every activity in my life was an interest not a habit.
The simple shift was taking something I was interested in, like writing, and turning it into a habit. This meant setting a target of four blog posts a week — regardless of how good my idea muscle was at the time or how busy my schedule was.
Writing became a habit. It didn’t do much at the start. It seemed like a habit that would lead nowhere. Six years on, turning that interest into a habit has been the best decision of my life.
Whatever you’re interested in, schedule one day per week where you practice that activity no matter what.
Treat people well for the hell of it
How you treat people has a dramatic effect on your life.
The way you treat people determines how you feel. If you want to introduce more joy into your life, make it your default operating mode to treat people ridiculously well. Here’s how:
- Give out genuine compliments
- Experiment with not talking about yourself at all
- Give out gifts that you know people will appreciate
- Surprise and delight those who support your work
- Like, clap, and appreciate people who hate your work — better yet, reply with a thank you and send them a smiley face
If you feel sh*tty, notice how you treat others. Keep a record of all the times you’re rude, arrogant, or ignore people. It might not be everybody else; it might be you.
Treat people how you want to be treated and your life will improve. Treat people better than they’d expect to be treated and you’ll discover an extraordinary place that words can’t describe.
Invest in yourself
You can’t help others until you help yourself first.
I tried to help people when I was battling a crippling mental illness and ended up talking down to strangers and swearing at them in the street. The subtle shift that completely changed my life was to invest in myself like this:
Feed your body medicine
Insert high doses of vegetables and fruits into your mouth. Drink more water than you think you should. Eat less sugar and oil that you’ll find in deep fryers across America.
Attend an educational event
The people in your inner circle may not be the ones to feed you new ideas. That’s why going along to a few events that expand your horizon can be beneficial. You’ll find like-minded people and access to new ideas that you can bring home with you and experiment with.
Automate part of your income
Every month, a part of my income automatically gets put aside and invested, not saved. That money is invested in assets that create more income so that as I get older, I can work less. Automate your income so you can work smarter not harder.
You may not be next-door neighbors with Elon Musk and that’s okay. You can be unofficially coached by people you admire through books. The best thing you can get from books is life lessons.
By reading about someone else’s experience, you can work out your own life in the process. Strategies come from life lessons and you have an endless supply in the form of books. You don’t always have to learn a harsh lesson to understand it. You can let someone else make the mistake and learn from it.
Take your resources — time and money — and use them to help yourself first. Once you’re good, then you can do good for others. A broken mind full of mental roadblocks is not going to be very helpful to anybody.
Work on your mindset
How you see the world is how you experience the world. Your life expands as your mind expands.
Work on your mindset using the following strategies:
See the world better than it is
Instead of seeing the world as it is, see it as slightly better than you see it. Imagine the world as being a display of your inner world. Rig the game in your favor.
Spilling milk on your shirt becomes “I didn’t like this shirt anyway.”
Missing your relative that died becomes “Geez they lived a good life and I can learn a lot from them.”
Getting fired becomes, “There’s a better job for me somewhere else. It’s time.”
Breaking up with your partner becomes “It’s time for a change and to date someone else.”
You can always look on the bright side and find a reason to smile. The question is: will you?
Watch how you react when you’re angry
When you’re angry, you react differently. Write down how you’re acting when you’re angry and what thoughts you find yourself having. Anger brings out the worst in you and you want to document that for later analysis.
Feed your mind a disproportionate amount of good news
Bad news is everywhere. There is a virus, bushfire, or an economic collapse just around the corner if you read too much mainstream news.
Fear gets your attention and that’s how you become lost in bad news. There’s a lot of good going on in the world to.
Stack the odds in your favor by reading at least 51% good news each day. Your mind will agree with bad news if that’s all you consume because your survival brain wants you to live and avoid danger.
There is always a situation to react to. It’s our default mode.
What would happen if you didn’t react? Better yet, what would happen if you slept on it? If a tweet made you really angry, could you wait until after you’ve had eight hours sleep to react? You could. And what would happen is you would fine the rage has subsided.
Shift your mindset by sleeping on situations that piss you off. You’ll be less reactive if you do.
Smile at crappy situations
I trained my brain to smile at every situation. The game I play with myself is if something bad happens, I have to smile for at least five seconds.
A woman dropped a full cup of coffee on my brand new jumper a few months ago. I played this game with myself. As the coffee dripped down my new jumper, I forced myself to smile.
You know what happened? It didn’t piss me off that much. As she tried to wipe the coffee off me to be nice and made it worse, I smiled. The next day I went to the same store that I got the jumper from and bought another one.
If you trip over, smile.
If you miss your train, smile.
If you lose $20, smile.
This game of smile will change your mindset.
Hang around with one person who has a better mindset than you
I don’t have the strongest mindset, no matter how many bulletproof coffees I drink. There’s always someone who is going to be mentally tougher than you.
Work on your mindset by finding one person whose mindset you know is better than yours. Spend more time with them.
One of my buddy’s, Clyde, has a mindset I envy. Nothing phases him. He’s like a Buddhist monk; only he wears a navy blue suit. The worst situation can happen and he’s still in a good mood.
Whenever my life goes off-track, I spend more time with him. His mindset rubs off on me. Find yourself a person like this.
Your mindset is everything. Tweak it slightly in your favor.
Set the bar higher
If you want more in life, adjust the imaginary bar you’ve set as your potential to be higher.
- Expect more from yourself.
- Hold yourself to a higher standard.
- Put in more work than you normally do.
- Complain slightly less.
- Raise your standards.
- Spend less time in comfort and slightly more in discomfort.
Aim higher in every area of your life and you’ll do more and be more than you could have ever imagined. You deserve it.