Weddings are considered one of the most important days in a couple’s relationship. Whether a local church or a destination wedding such as in Oregon, or even one in another country, it is generally an event they want to share with the ones closest to them.
This story from a potential bridesmaid highlights just one of the things that can occur to disrupt the special day. While she has nuptials planned too, her accusation is that her friend, “Suzie,” who is also planning a wedding, is behaving “badly.” Is Suzie a bridezilla, or just hurt?
Suzie, who she had known more than a decade, had asked OP if she would be a bridesmaid when she got married. More than a year later when her beau popped the big question, the friend figured that OP would stick to it.
However, OP had hopes of what her own future would look like, and turned Suzie down. Not only did she pull out of the agreement, she did it via telephone rather than face-to-face. In the subsequent two months, Suzie has not spoken to her.
What did OP think was so important that she couldn’t commit to being a bridesmaid? She hoped to be pregnant at that point, more than a year in the future. It seems that she and her fiance want to start trying to get pregnant as soon as they are married.
Not only did OP tell her over the phone, she started the conversation by laying that on her. Only afterwards did she ask how the wedding planning was going. Apparently it was very poorly, and Suzie hung up on her.
Though she seemed to have some excuses as to why her choice was the best course of action, the people on Reddit were not having it. The majority of Redditors determined that she was in the wrong.
However, there were plenty who defended her. Some thought traveling a distance further than Canada from Oregon was reason enough for her to say no.
Interestingly, those in the US had a different take. While bridesmaids have a lot of responsibility in the states, Europeans felt the participation needs should be minimal.
It was also pointed out that OP was making a lot of assumptions that her reproduction plans were going to go exactly as she planned.
What do you think? Should OP apologize to Suzie? Was she even in the wrong? What would you do?