By Erika “E” Johnson
I have a difficult relationship with my mother that makes Mother’s Day a challenge, to say the least. How do I handle my conflicting feelings around this time of year?
Any time there is a difficult situation, especially one that involves emotions, healing and boundaries, you must be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace. During Mother’s Day, be gentle with yourself and try not to allow your emotions to beat you up. Your emotions are here for a reason, and you are meant to feel them because you need to realize something, process it and release what’s inside. Don’t ignore them. Look for ways to understand, process and release your conflicting feelings.
Once you process the feelings you’re carrying, you can figure out what emotions you want to release. There are no rules for this but, as a guide, I advise you to do what brings you the most peaceful relief. A release can look like writing a letter and burning it, or giving it to your mother. Journaling about her, having a good cry, talking to a therapist and working out can also help.
Ask yourself what you can do for your mother while respecting your boundaries and maintaining peace. Find a small way to show her appreciation, like giving her a card, sending a text or flowers, or sharing an old picture with a thank you.
Erika "E" Johnson is a Pittsburgh native, a singer-songwriter, writer and founder of Beata Beatus Co. Find out more at www.erikadenaej.com. To ask E for advice, send your question to firstname.lastname@example.org.
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