I Broke up with a Boyfriend Because He Wasn't Handsome Enough for Me.
The first time I noticed the look, Simon and I hadn’t been dating that long. We were out of town celebrating his birthday, and I watched the same exact look pass over the faces of the hotel clerk, the bookstore cashier, and the server at an upscale restaurant on the town square.Read full story
Sometimes the Only Way We Can Leave a Marriage Is the Coward's Way.
Yet I've never regretted cheating on my husband. The proper way to leave any relationship is through having a conversation with the other person. You tell them it’s not working for you. You’re clear and concise. You’re even kind. You and they settle whatever needs to be settled. You part ways, officially break-up, respectful of the good times you shared together and what you learned.Read full story
I Dated the Person I Left My Husband For.
I dated a man who was a kaleidoscope of selves: himself, whom he wasn’t, and whom I wished he would be. Simon shoved his tongue into my mouth, and I accepted it, albeit somewhat unwillingly. It was the first time we’d kissed, just five days after I’d left my husband.Read full story
My affair wasn’t the beginning of the end of my marriage.
My affair wasn’t the beginning of the end, but it was the end of the end. I went to a work conference in a town five hours away with Simon, a colleague I knew only casually. It’s normal to hang out with other colleagues at these things, and I didn’t think anything of it when he told me he wanted to skip a session to check out a local bookstore. I went with him. We walked around the city and talked. Things were easy and comfortable and light.Read full story
My marriage to my ex-husband was like a $240 belted sleeveless cream dress.
It can be hard to leave a relationship based on how much time, effort, and resources you’ve already invested. I bought a dress for work from a well-known designer brand. A belted sleeveless cream dress, it looked like a good investment for $240 (which, on my salary, was a lot for me to spend on one item). I wanted to get somewhere at work, and this dress could help me look the part, I believed. I took my measurements and selected the appropriate size and ordered it online.Read full story
Dating advice for men in the 21st century
Here are some tips you can follow to make you the best man for the woman you’re vying for. The last thing in the world you might want is a crazy woman, but what about if she was crazy for you?Read full story
Improved communication skills = improved fighting skills
Improved communication skills = improved fighting skills. What is the *one* thing you and your partner always seem to fight about?. Is it who does the most chores around the house or cares for the kids more? That they have a friend or family member you don’t like? That they make jokes that irritate you or they don’t like to be very social?Read full story
I no longer speak to my parents, and I am better off
I haven’t spoken to either my mother or my father since December of 2018. Family is important and valuable to most people. Family is incredibly important to me as well. I have two young children, a partner, and a very close set of friends.Read full story
Divorce-proofing your marriage
If I’d known how awful divorce was going to feel, I wouldn’t have gotten married to my first husband. I absolutely would have ended that relationship before we got married.Read full story
Surviving a marital separation
In the state of Tennessee where I live, it was not required that I separate from my ex-husband before I divorced him. I could just file and then it could be done in ninety days (Hahahaha. It took eleven months).Read full story
Defining boundaries after your divorce when you have children
My ex-husband and I have a polite relationship based entirely on doing what’s best for our kids. We are not friends. We don’t chit-chat. I don’t really know what’s going on in his life. He doesn’t really know what’s going on in mine.Read full story
“Breadcrumbing” in a relationship is a detriment to both parties
The day my ex-husband and I sold the house we’d shared together, I had my first date with Daniel. When I walked into the restaurant, he was sitting at the bar, all 6 foot runner-built of him.Read full story
Having a great relationship after kids takes hard work
I love my children. I’m so grateful I had them. But I’d be lying if I said they didn’t make things difficult. It’s harder to find time alone. It’s harder to want to be intimate when one or both of my husband and I have recently changed a poopy diaper or are covered with some other malodorous body fluid. The sleepless nights. The fatigue.Read full story
Parents Are No Longer Able to Opt-Out of School Mask Mandates. Here's What That Means for Tennessee.
Troy Stolt/Chattanooga Times Free Press, via Associated Press. On August 16th, Tennessee Governor Bill Lee signed Executive Order 84, which officially allowed Tennessee parents to exempt their children from school mask mandates.Read full story
The Facebook post that has a Shelby County municipal administrator under investigation
While many of us believe that what we post on social media should have no impact on our professional lives, that may not be the case for one Shelby County administrator. Her now-deleted Facebook post is currently under investigation and may lead to disciplinary action.Read full story
Your choice not to wear a mask? Not for Shelby County.
Troy Stolt/Chattanooga Times Free Press, via Associated Press. As of Monday of this week, parents across the state have the freedom to choose whether or not their children have to wear a mask at school, but Shelby County and the Memphis area have now issued a new countywide mask mandate to begin Friday, August 20th.Read full story
Bad habits can separate healthy from unhealthy couples
Photo by AllGo - An App For Plus Size People on Unsplash. I grew up believing a healthy relationship was all about finding the right person. If a couple wasn’t healthy, it simply meant they weren’t “soulmates.”Read full story
Couples counseling can be helpful for any couple, even if you and your partner are fine
The room Beverly led us to was bright. Too bright. I blinked my eyes at the unexpected light spilling through the open blinds and onto the pristine couch and tastefully selected throw pillows.Read full story
“All-or-nothing” thinking can hurt romantic relationships
“You never listen!” I found myself whisper-yelling at my husband in an IKEA parking lot so our daughter wouldn’t overhear. “I do too!” he hissed through gritted teeth. “You didn’t tell me a time!”Read full story
Freeing myself of my husband’s past relationships made me more secure
The man who is now my husband has a type, one he’s rarely strayed from. Except for me. When we first began dating and I heard about or happened to see one of his ex-partners, I found it maddening. How could he have been into those women, but now into me? I wondered.Read full story