Will you change?
If you come face to face with your dreams today, tomorrow, next week, or any time this month, what will that look like for you?
If you signed, let’s say, a well-into-the-six-figures book deal, how will you change? Will you change at all? Will you act the same, wear the same clothes, drive the same car, live in the same area — what will you do?
Will you still be depressed — if you’re battling that cold and dark fight?
Will you still drink like you’re back in college in the spare time known as the weekend?
Will you still dread Monday mornings and count down the seconds, minutes, hours, and days until Friday night?
Will you treat people differently?
Will you eliminate the epidemic that’s taking people and things for granted?
Will you eat at fancy restaurants?
Will you change if your wildest dreams come true this month?
Most people will answer with an obvious yes. After all, making your dreams come true is supposed to lead to a happy and fulfilled life. It’s supposed to solve problems and open all the doors.
We all hope we’ll change for the better if our dreams come true and we become the people we’re meant to be. We probably will in some way if all of our problems are solved tomorrow and we no longer have to worry about money or clocking in and out of dead-end jobs.
When we start to solve our problems by actually solving our problems (not throwing pills or drugs at them), we — this might sound crazy — become happier.
However, if it takes a perfect scenario for people to be happy — if it takes all of our dreams to come true — then change will likely never take place and we will always be unhappy, soul-searching for the next best thing.
If you can’t be happy now and grateful for everything you have, what makes you think you’ll be happy when you have a little bit more?
Of course, happiness isn’t some switch we can flick on and off, and to say otherwise is foolish. That’s lacking empathy at its finest.
People don’t typically make their lives better with one big change, although a massive change can be — dare I say — life-changing. People make their lives better by gradually changing their mindsets, habits, relationships, and meaning.
The problem is we live in a materialistic world that features advertisements, marketers, and businesses throwing things our way, telling us what to buy, what to wear, and how we should feel.
We live during a time in which there’s something wrong with you if you aren’t staying connected on networks that are supposed to scream social but are really signaling a lonely culture while alerting the constantly-having-to-one-up-people lights.
It’s tough staying sane and happy when social media networks are filled with the highlights of one’s life.
You can’t blame people for not posting the bad because no one wants to see that and not everyone wants to air out their dirty laundry to the online world. Plus, you’re not allowed to post negative thoughts and feelings … unless you’re talking about someone else and how you totally wouldn’t have done that if you were them. But you’re not them and you’re not wearing their shoes. You didn’t have to endure their circumstances and problems in that specific moment in time that led to a supposed bad decision. Life is complicated, man.
So many big companies and brands don’t want us to be happy and these are the gatekeepers of the world we look to for the definition of happiness. If they did care more about consumers, then they wouldn’t tell us what to wear, how bulk is out and thin is in, that you need to buy this new phone, computer, pair of shoes, or in some cases, which drugs to take.
It’s hard being fulfilled and happy with your life and self when ads are saying you’re unhappy and we have the secret to eliminating your unhappiness. Not to mention, everything that’s going on in the world on a daily basis…
You can’t count on being happy if it will take everything going exactly right and all of your dreams coming true. You won’t morph into happy the moment you land your dream job because dreams never quite live up to expectations and they’re constantly changing. The next dream job is around the corner once you land on the spot and place you thought would solve your problems.
The solution to happiness isn’t a one-size-fits-all switch.
I don’t know this to be true, but I imagine for every aspiring, dream-filled novelist, there’s an unhappy, real-life novelist.
The only thing that’s going to make you happy is deciding to be happy, which is, of course, easier said than done when so much chaos fills our lives and when the richest people on the planet stuff their pockets by taking from the less rich and the far more poor — and these are the only people who can actually create worldwide change tomorrow.
If I land a traditional book deal today, tomorrow, next week, or this month, I imagine I’ll call my family and closest friends and tell them my dream finally came true and my life is about to change … and while that will likely hold some truth, will this new and glorious perspective of mine stay the same six months down the line?
Will I stay happy? Will I truly change?
I can only hope, but the truth is … I don’t know.
I’m constantly saying — and I know I’m not alone — my life will be different when this and that happen.
Unfortunately, life is complicated and while our passions and dreams keep us hungry and going, the people and the world around us are constantly changing and more problems are arising.
We all want to be happy and we all want to work at dream jobs and we all want to be financially stable and we all want things, but we have to try to come together and be happy in the present. If we can’t be happy during the journey that’s making our dreams a reality and our lives better, we can’t expect to be happy when these dreams become reality.
Will you change if your dreams come true this month?
If you’re grateful and happy with the way things are now, then you will likely be even more grateful and happy if your dreams come true. If you take things for granted and are constantly in search for more, then, well, nothing, other than possibly a title and your paychecks increasing, will likely change.
Then again, everyone is different and that’s why humans are so uniquely beautiful.