Opinion: Why Narcissists Want to Get Married

Stacy Ann

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Narcissists are often characterized by their self-centered and manipulative personalities. They are known to use others for their gain and are often unable to empathize with the feelings of others. Despite these negative traits, narcissists may still desire marriage. In this blog post, we will explore the reasons why narcissists may want to get married.

Social Status

Narcissists often value their social status and image above all else. They may see marriage as a way to enhance their social standing and gain the admiration and envy of others. Being married can also be seen as a sign of success and stability, which may feed into their need for validation and attention.


Narcissists have a strong desire for control and may see marriage as a way to solidify their power and control over their partner. Marriage can create a sense of ownership and entitlement over their partner, which may satisfy their need for control and dominance. Narcissists may also use marriage to control their partner's behavior and limit their autonomy.

Fulfillment of Fantasies

Narcissists often have grandiose fantasies about themselves and their lives. Marriage may be seen as a way to fulfill these fantasies, such as having the perfect partner, wedding, or family. They may view marriage as an extension of their self-image and seek to create an idealized image of themselves and their life through marriage.

Source of Narcissistic Supply

Narcissists require a constant source of attention and validation to feed their ego. Marriage can provide a steady stream of this validation, as the partner is expected to meet the needs and desires of the narcissist constantly. Narcissists may also enjoy the feeling of being admired and desired by their partner, as it reinforces their sense of self-worth.

Financial Gain

Narcissists may see marriage as a way to gain financial stability or access to resources. They may marry for financial gain, such as marrying into a wealthy family or gaining access to their partner's assets. This can also tie into their desire for control, as having financial control over their partner can further reinforce their sense of power and dominance.

Image of Normalcy

Narcissists may seek marriage to appear "normal" or "stable" to others. They may feel pressure to conform to societal expectations and norms, such as getting married and starting a family. Marriage can provide a sense of legitimacy and normalcy to their lifestyle, even if it is just a façade.

Ultimately, narcissists may want to get married for various reasons, including social status, control, fulfillment of fantasies, source of narcissistic supply, financial gain, and image of normalcy. While marriage may seem like a way to satisfy their needs and desires, it can also damage the partner and the relationship. Narcissists may use marriage to control and manipulate their partner, leading to emotional abuse and instability. Recognizing the warning signs of narcissism in a partner and seeking help if necessary, is essential. Working with a therapist can help you establish healthy boundaries, develop strong communication skills, and gain the confidence to leave a toxic relationship if needed. Remember, your well-being and happiness are important, and you deserve to be in a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

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