"My ex-girlfriend moved out of our apartment into a hotel room after she received her money from taxes. She said that she wasn't happy and felt we needed to separate. Against my objections, she packed her and our daughter's clothes and left. Since her departure, there has been constant bickering over when I can spend quality time with my child. I have kept my composure and tried my best to keep tensions calm, however, a mutual friend of ours recently told me that she has a new boyfriend that she has been spending quality time with. I brought the topic up to her, and she started calling me jealous and so on. My only point is that she has a man in a hotel room staying with my child. I feel as a father, I have a right to question these actions. I responded by assuring her that I was not concerned with whom she wished to be with, but I would like to care for my child when he is around until I knew him better and so forth. I also brought up the fact that for her to be so comfortable with the new fellow, she must have known him for a longer period of time than said. Which in my mind would explain her recent departure. She became extremely upset and began whopping and hollering about me wasting her life and wanting to control her. Since the incident, I have only spoken to my daughter over the phone and have yet to see her. I don't want to cause problems for our family. What can I do without involving the courts?" -Xavier
Hey Xavier. I pray that all is well with you and your family. I salute you as a father for being involved in your daughter's life and you should never feel bad or question yourself for wanting to be involved. Your ex-girlfriend is wrong and childish for using the child as a pawn in her journey for independence. I feel that if you have exerted every possible way of reaching out then by all legal means the court system may be your only option. Don't consistently dwell on the time frame of which the new boyfriend has been involved, or the reason behind her ex's changed feelings. Rather focus your energy on moving on and creating a peaceful transition for your child. Sending you the best of luck. -SSS
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