Sibling Relationship Ruined After Brother Throws Miscarriage in Sister's Face Behind New Girlfriend

Ezekixl Akinnewu

"My brother's new girlfriend is highly unaccepted by my family for multiple reasons. One is that he ruined his childhood friendship and highly respectable relationship to be with this person. The female has a five-year-old daughter and is very financially unstable. I watch as my brother who is not the child's father wakes up to get the baby dressed, fully bathed, and fed while her mother sleeps past noon. On multiple occasions, the child is absent from school and my brother will miss work to stay home and accompany the two of them. What baffled me is not only does he lay out the child's clothes but her mother's as well. Along with her toothbrush and etcetera. For the entirety of their relationship, they have been living pillar to post, and my brother has even started lying and hustling money from family members who are growing tired. His girlfriend constantly spends money she receives on marijuana, which she freely uses in front of the child before anything else. I expressed how this was not his job and that he was bringing himself down for a woman trying to take care of them while she had no initiative to care for herself or her child. In response, my brother reiterated the fact that I could not have kids and went so far as to call me jealous and say that it was the reason I miscarried. I am extremely hurt however my family is saying I should just calm down. Am I wrong for saying that my hands are washed with him? " -Candace

Hey Candace. I am so sorry about this situation. Sibling relationships hold greater emotion than most understand. Sisters are crazy protective over their brothers so I most definitely understand your concern for your brother. Sometimes love blinds people and as long as they have that veil over their eyes it's nothing that you can do. It is a harsh and hurtful reality. You don't have to wash your hands with him forever, but I do believe you should step back and allow him to do what he wants because you have a life to live. You don't deserve to be emotionally hit like that by anyone, especially family. You have to find peace and allow your brother to do the same. As for his girlfriend and the child, I say pray for them both. Especially the young girl. May love fill your heart this Valentine's Day. -SSS