Daughter Seeks Her Fathers Forgiveness After Stealing Money and Wedding Band Off Her Mother's Hand During Funeral

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Man in Black jacket standing in front of graveBrett Sayles

My daughter's boyfriend removed a diamond wedding band off my dead wife's hand while in her coffin. Unaware of the engravement placed on the inside band he pawned it at a local pawn shop, I recognized it immediately and questioned the attendant about the seller. He told me that my daughter and her boyfriend pawned it the same day as my late wife's memorial. My heart broke when I saw that it was my daughter herself who signed the ring over. Not wanting to involve the police, thinking I was looking out for her, I just quietly bought the ring back and left the shop. Heartbroken I called my daughter and questioned her about the incident. She lied. The whole phone call she denied their involvement, cursed me out, and went so far as to wish me dead. I begged her to just leave the boy and come home to me. I begged her and begged her as much as a man can beg. Two months later I met with lawyers to settle the financial costs of our home and the remaining funeral cost. Unbeknownst to me, I was in debt over $20,000. My daughter had not only forged my wife's signature on credit cards and payday loans, but she also cashed the insurance check that was expected to cover my wife's expenses. As I sat in that office, I felt as if my whole life had been stripped from me again. I, a man at 42 cried in front of a group of others like a nursing newborn. That was 12 years ago now, and I haven't physically seen nor spoken to my daughter since. I went home that day and packed all of her belongings, and booked her a room at a hotel in town. I paid the booking for a week and asked the host to contact her to inform her of her living arrangement, and that she could pick her key up from the front desk. I then returned home and changed the locks. Recently, since the start of the pandemic to be exact, my daughter has tried to reach out to me through relatives on social media. They tell me she has a child now, and that she has turned her life around. Matured is the word I hear a lot. I however can not find it in my heart yet to forgive her. Am I wrong for disinheriting my child? What should I do? - Jorge

Hey Jorge,

I hope this finds you in great peace. I want to send my condolences for the passing of your late wife. The pain you have endured is unimaginably terrible and I admire your strength and endurance. I will tell you to continue to pray for your child because, despite her faults or shortcomings, she is still your child. I would hope that she has truly changed not only for herself but for the child she has now. She may be seeking your forgiveness and she wants the opportunity to confess. Is later better than never? Maybe a phone conversation to get things going is best instead of jumping headfirst into a public situation where things may become awkward. Remember that your grandchild is innocent in all of this, and rather your daughter has changed her ways or not, that child may very well still need you. A parent's job is to care for, protect, and teach their child. If you did that then your wife, I believe, would be proud of you. You have every right to feel and grieve and do as you please and you have a great reason for your actions. However, don't allow yourself to live with hate in your heart. I hope you can figure this out for yourself because your heart deserves some rest. Blessings and good vibes coming your way. -SSS

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