An Eye-Opening Look Inside the Mind of an Addict As Told By Chandler Bing

Shelley Wenger

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A book review of Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing by Matthew Perry.
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The opening line of Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing starts with a chilling statement, especially if you keep up with celebrity gossip.

“Hi, my name is Matthew, although you may know me by another name. My friends call me Matty. And I should be dead.”

As soon as I had some money for reading, I knew that I had to pick up Perry’s memoir, and it is chilling. He takes us along his ride, from his parents splitting up to flying alone from one to the other, finding fame and addiction, as well as recovery in this journey that we call life. He also is brutally honest about his life-threatening health scare. In fact, he is brutally honest with all of it.

We learn about a five-year-old boy flying alone, a nationally ranked tennis star, and then the goofball who got the part of his dreams, Chandler Bing. In fact, he didn’t have to play a part. He was Chandler Bing! However, he quickly finds out that fame isn’t what he is expecting. He still was scared of commitment and of being alone. He had it all, yet something was missing.

Drinking and drugs took over his life. He worked and spent his evenings alone so that nobody knew how much he drank and how many drugs it took to keep him going. He got sober many times. When his life was good, it was good. He was able to stay sober and help others reach the same point. But unfortunately, he couldn’t stay away from the drinking and drugs. Cigarettes also became a habit that he had to break.

He often says that his only regret is that he didn’t let anyone in and start a family. He could have been a good father. In the book, he had hope for the future. Only now, we know that it isn’t going to happen. And it makes me sad, but I am truly glad I read this book.

I had no idea about addiction. Like many others, I thought it was just something you could stop. However, after reading this book, I now know that it truly is a disease, and it is one that you have to deal with for the rest of your life! It was truly, truly eye-opening! It is a must-read, especially if you have someone who is addicted in your life. You will really begin to understand what they are going through!


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Shelley is a small town farm mom of two boys. She is a veterinary technician, so she is proud to write about all kinds of animals and their care. She also loves to write about writing, running a business, working from home, and much more.

Glenville, PA

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