Is It Ok to Kiss on the First Date?

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When it comes to kissing on the first date, it can go either way. While many expect a kiss, no matter how good or bad the date was, others want to wait a while before touching lips. There are times when a person has a strong feeling either way. Others just decide to go with the flow, and see what happens.

You may also be having trouble reading your date. Is she (or he) expecting a kiss? Would it be a problem if you waited until you felt more comfortable? It can be hard to decide what to do.

If you are struggling with the decision, here are some reasons why you might want to pucker up on the first date.

Both of you are having a really good time. If both of you are enjoying your date, you may feel ready to take the next step. Who knows, you might even feel like puckering up before the end of the date. There is no reason why you shouldn’t gather up the courage to kiss if both of you are talking, laughing, and flirting.

The chemistry and attraction are there. While some first dates are super awkward, you may also find yourself on a date where you just can’t believe your luck! The chemistry and attraction between the two of you may be so strong, that it is only natural to move in for a kiss.

You may want to end the night on a good note. If the date is going well, there isn’t a better way to end the date than with a kiss. This will give you and your date something to think (and smile) about.

A kiss can be a promise for the future. If the date goes well, and both of you plan on seeing each other again, your first kiss can signal the beginning of your future together. You may want to hope that it is your last first kiss!

Here are some reasons why you shouldn’t kiss on the first date.

You aren’t really comfortable enough yet. If you still feel like you barely know the person after your first date, you may want to hold off on a kiss. If you have a second date, you may learn enough to be more comfortable taking that leap.

You don’t see a second date in the future. There are times when you know right away that you aren’t going to be going on another date. The date may have gone terribly wrong, or you might just feel unsure about the prospect of a second date. Why waste a kiss on a date that leaves so many questions in your mind?

You may also hold off on the kiss if you feel like there is too much pressure. There is nothing worse than feeling pressured to have a good night kiss. If either one of you is worrying about it too much, it is probably a good idea to wait until the next date (or when you are both more comfortable around each other).

The truth is that it can be hard to decide if you should kiss on a first date. Either way, both of you need to be in agreement. One person shouldn’t force the other to lean in!

However, a good night kiss can make the evening feel even more special. Both of you may have enjoyed yourselves, laughing and flirting. If the chemistry is there, a kiss may be on your horizon. If it is right, a kiss may feel like a promise for the future.

That being said, there are times when you should hold off. If one or both of you aren’t comfortable, you may want to wait. If there is too much pressure, it can ruin the whole evening, so it is much better to wait. You want your first kiss to be special, and the pressure can really ruin it!

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Shelley is a small town farm mom of two boys. She is a veterinary technician, so she is proud to write about all kinds of animals and their care. She also loves to write about writing, running a business, working from home, and much more.

Glenville, PA

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