Can I Cope With The Loss of A Loved One?

Shein K
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Have you lost your loved ones at a younger age?

There was a time in my life when I felt such the moment I lost my father. I was lost for a few months, didn't talk to anyone, and wasn't even paying attention in class.

Later one day, I realized that this was not the way to deal with it. So I decided to take a break from my life and went on vacation.

My mother had initially protested but later agreed since she felt it was time I took some time off after the recent events and so she finally let me go on this week-long trip by myself, just like old times.

Death is an inevitable part of life. It's hard to cope with the death of a loved one, especially when it is sudden or unexpected. Losing my father was one of the challenging experiences of my life.

I didn't know how to deal with the pain and emptiness I was experiencing. Here I will talk about what I did after my father died to keep going.

Travel as much as you can

When my father died, I decided to take a break from living. Rather than staying depressed, I decided to travel.

Many people advised me against it, but I didn't care what they said. First and foremost, my college friends went on vacation and spent time together, which made me feel better.

Second, getting away from our usual environment allows us to clear our minds.

When you are surrounded by nothing but memories of your loved one, it's tough to stay positive and happy and begin planning a new life instead of focusing on how much worse your life is now than it was before that person died/left/whatever happened.

The best part is going somewhere like Europe where every day is a different story!

Spend time with friends and family

I spent my 3rd-year vacation alone and went on an adventure trip for trekking. It was one of my dream for a long but couldn't do it because I had never been out from home without family since childhood and wanted some challenge in my life.

The people who care about you will be there for you and want to help in any way they can. When someone loses a parent, it's common to experience a period of sadness and grief. However, spending time with your loved ones will lift your spirits.

Spend time with friends or family members, or both. Doing so can help you feel loved and supported during a difficult time in your life. Sharing these memories and emotions with those closest to you can be an excellent coping mechanism.

You'll have others by your side who are also experiencing similar feelings, allowing you to open up about them with ease. The conversations that arise from this may encourage you during what might otherwise be an emotional experience for everyone involved.

Eat Well

When Christmas came around, I let myself enjoy cooking alongside her—but afterward, my diet quickly went back to normal because she wasn't there anymore!

In my case, when my father passed away, I wasn't eating anything healthy but just sitting all day and thinking about my dad as he was going through cancer treatment.

I used to eat anything that came my way. That's why during vacations, my body used to show negative effects because of eating too much junk food. So now when I go on vacation, I plan out healthy food options beforehand so that I don't eat as much junk as before.

Skipping dinner one night a week is also very helpful in losing weight. One simple tip can help you slim down: Eat slowly; savor your food and take time chewing it well instead of swallowing large chunks of meat or pasta whole.

A slower pace can help trigger hormonal changes that allow you to feel full sooner and stay full longer — meaning you'll be less likely to overeat or engage in mindless snacking while watching TV later in your downtime.

Fruits are an excellent choice during grief recovery as they provide vitamins and nutrients to boost your mood & stabilize blood sugar levels. Instead of dairy milk, make hot chocolate with berries, or spread almond butter on whole-grain toast instead of jelly!

Simple substitutions like these can keep your belly full without resorting to sugary snacks packed with empty calories. No matter how you slice it, fresh fruits & veggies pack a ton of flavor into each bite & are so good for you.

During times of sorrow and stress, it's easy to reach for junk food. It can be unhealthy for your body and even dangerous if you have certain health conditions or allergies.

Eating well will help you stay on track and give you more energy to deal with what's going on in your life. If you're feeling like throwing in the towel, take a little time to care for yourself by eating wholesome foods that will make you feel better both physically and emotionally!

Meditate daily

I had to spend time alone and think about my dad. I started going to yoga classes which helped me a lot of things to calm down and meditate.

A few months later, I began focusing on my schoolwork again, determined to finish it successfully, and that became my goal.

I was successful in doing all of these tasks because, with each thing, I made sure to take it one day at a time and not get overwhelmed by everything that was happening around me.

It took a few months for me to feel like myself again, but after doing so many things I enjoyed, I discovered what kept me happy even during difficult times in my life.

My advice to you:- Losing someone close is extremely painful but never let go of your goals & do all those things you love doing!

Sleep early

It is tough to deal with the loss of a loved one. And, if you've been through a traumatic experience, it's critical to recognize that you may require some extra time to yourself to deal with it.

This one was hard for me to master. I used to stay up till late at night, sometimes even sleep till noon or later.

It affected my grades in school as well as mood swings. Getting good sleep ensures that you feel refreshed and ready to start your day with a positive attitude.

Experts recommend going to bed between 9 pm and 11 pm and waking up early between 6 am & 8 am to get quality sleep.

I now go to bed at about 10:30 pm and wake up early with a clear mind to get ready for anything! Good luck!

If you are feeling lost after the death of a loved one, you should know that you are not alone.

Grief stems from a deep longing for someone, but it is also perplexing because you wonder what kind of person would abandon their family.

Stay positive

During one of my darkest moments, I decided to do a simple thing: stay positive. I tried to consider all of my options in life and accept that everything would be fine no matter what.

I realized that in trying to always look on the bright side, there was also a dark side—and ignoring it didn't make it go away. Although it was difficult, my mind eventually settled down and relaxed enough for someone like me to reflect on my life.

From here, I could see how much I had overcome; I decided not only would life be okay, but good as well—my father would have wanted nothing less from me.

Many people who've experienced similar loss report feeling paralyzed by sadness. They say they found comfort in everyday activities like chatting with friends or watching TV shows to keep moving forward.

It's easy to get caught up thinking about what you've lost and forget that you still have your whole future ahead of you—not just someone else's future but your own!

Take breaks

Doing things you enjoy (within reason, of course) can be a great way to take your mind off something that’s bothering you. When I was coping with losing my father, I took a break from school and did something for myself.

The vacation, as well as especially being in a different city, altered my perspective on life. I felt like I had a chance to refocus and address some things I’d been neglecting or putting off because of other responsibilities.

You might be surprised at how much time you waste worrying about work or other obligations when all it takes is a change of scenery to help get your mind back on track.

There are also opportunities for self-reflection, something people tend to avoid as we rush through our daily lives. I decided to attend school in another city where I made new friends.

Nowadays, I rarely recall that moment; instead, when someone asks me about my college experience, I tell them about learning new skills, going to parties every week, and becoming accustomed to living alone.

Don’t forget to be thankful

Even though I was in a lot of pain, I realized there would be some things I should be grateful for:-

For instance, my father was able to have me with him for so many years that he would never have if he didn’t lose his job & we had to move.

Being grateful helped me get out of my funk and appreciate what I had left. It made my future more positive and helped me keep going no matter how much I wanted to stay at home and wallow in sadness.

My father always encouraged us, kids, to give back by volunteering or helping those less fortunate; after losing him, I knew what giving back meant to me, which is why I spent time with my sister’s children when they were sick or lonely.

Aside from the mental benefits of being thankful, it also has physical benefits. Although losing a loved one is a heartbreaking experience, it doesn’t have to be completely miserable.

If you find yourself in that kind of situation, try not to let your emotions consume you.

My father died when I was young, and I was clear how I would cope after that.

There was a period of my life when I felt like I couldn’t go on; however, as time passed, I realized just how much his life had affected mine and how he would want me to move forward with my life.

The more I took note of his good qualities and thanked him for them, the less painful things became.


I was lost after my father died. I didn't know who I was or what I wanted to do with my life. Thankfully, I was able to find my way with the help of my family and friends.

If you're going through a tough time, please know that you are not alone. You can find support in the people closest to you, and you can also find it in the pages of this book. Follow me for more stories of hope and healing.

Losing loved ones is a natural part of life.

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