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When I was 18, I was having a hard time finding my place in the world.
I guess it’s something we never learn enough.
I needed to know who I was, what I had to do to be happy, and in harmony with everyone.
Finding yourself is not an easy process. It takes time.
It took me many years to understand that everyone else’s values were not mine. What others thought important was not to me.
You must give yourself space to discover who you truly are and what you really enjoy in life.
You must give yourself time and space to find out what truly makes you happy.
You must take some time for yourself, to understand what you enjoy — or not enjoy — to do with your time.
And only with the years and experience, you will learn who you are and what you want. You — as your unique self.
Maybe you do not know this: You are unique. There’s no one like you, in the entire Universe.
Billions and billions of stars are shining out there, but no one does it as you do it.
Understanding this is the only thing that will make you free.
Only then, when you discover yourself in every detail, physically and spiritually, nobody will have the power to tell you who you are and decide how you must live your life.
There will be no more boss to shout at you because you will choose the job that makes you feel good and satisfies you.
There will be no more boyfriend treating you badly or trying to make you do things you don’t want to do because the second he will try, you’ll tell him goodbye.
Nobody will be able to command or manipulate you, or disrespect you: you will know who you are and what you need. And you will not need to suck on anyone or accept in your life people who harm you.
It’s not easy, it’s not hard, and it’s going to take the time it’s going to take.
But do it. Take it as your main purpose in 2021.
Find out who you are, what you need to do with your life, and what kind of people you allow in your personal space.
It’s your life: assume it. It’s easier than you think.
Don’t compromise, unless strictly necessary.
Let no one decide in your place.
Let no one else live for you.
The sooner, the better.
Because only then will you understand how to stand in this world, and what to stand for.
This will spare you a lot of hard work, suffering, misunderstandings, bad times, and miserable life.
The faster you find out who you really are, the more life you are going to save. The more wonderful moments you are going to collect.
You will have no more pain and regrets. You will enjoy every minute of your life, by knowing exactly what you are doing and why.
Live no more for someone else’s dream.
Live no more other people’s ideal life.
Don’t be someone else. Don’t try to copy them, hoping they will love or appreciate you.
Don’t sacrifice your entire time and dreams for the sake of someone else. Even if they are family. It might sound rough, but if you compromise and be miserable for their sake, they won’t appreciate it.
Long term, they will despise you for it.
People never love, respect, or appreciate your sacrifice. You doing the hard stuff for their sake.
Most of them will leave you. Even your parents, close friends, or boyfriend.
Nobody enjoys seeing you suffer. Maybe they’ll try to help, but secretly they will appreciate, like, respect someone else, someone who is having a great time and living their life as they like to.
So, go have a great time on your terms.
Be correct. Harm no one.
Leave behind people and situations who are not worth it, who do not appreciate you or give you respect and happiness.
Do it your way.
Do it in a way that makes you happy.
It sounds like a cliché ... but it's so deeply important.
Make this 2021 your year.