Take care of yourself and improve your mental health
“You can be gorgeous at thirty, charming at forty, and irresistible for the rest of your life” — Coco Chanel
Some days ago, I bumped into this video from beauty blogger Andreea Balaban. She usually creates beauty, lifestyle, and fashion content. She is funny and has the talent to make you feel better and believe that you can instantly be a shiny, gorgeous person, just by adding a little bit of effort to your daily routine, by improving some significant details.
Sometimes, you might feel lazy, stressed or very tired and think that nobody cares about how you look and that people’s opinion about you and your appearance doesn’t have to be taken into consideration anyway.
In part, that is true. You don’t have to obsess about the way you look, pandemic or not pandemic. You are worthy of love and respect and don’t have to wear high heels and lipstick to believe it.
But what about increasing your self-esteem and loving yourself more?
Improving the way you look might have a big impact on how you value yourself, psychologists say.
“We have limited research on the effects of makeup and clothing on wellbeing and emotions, however, research that we’ve done so far does show they can have a positive impact — they might not make you feel you’re entirely happy with your life, but it can enhance your mood and your overall psychological wellbeing” — Soljana Çili, lecturer on the MSc Applied Psychology in Fashion
Psychologists say self-care is vital to mental health, “though it’s something we frequently neglect to practice”.
“Practicing self-care can have remarkable effects on our self-esteem. When we take care of ourselves, it affirms our self-worth. By taking care of ourselves and our needs, we’re telling ourselves, ‘I deserve this’. And we do.” — Nicole Carman, menthal health blogger and advocate
According to the University of Michigan, you can support your well being and mental health by doing things that you like and breaking up the monotony, by valuing yourself, taking care of your body, exercising, and trying to look and feel as good as possible.
So here are a few tips to take into consideration and have fun with, daily.
Take a good shower, use some great products that you like for your skin. Do your skincare routine as often as you can. We do tend to neglect this simple advice but think about how good this makes you feel, and how much respect you build for yourself, just by doing the normal routine that makes you look and feel like a true goddess.
The best way to do it: take massages, go to spas, apply body and face treatments that will make you even more gorgeous than you really are, and show your natural glow.
2. Always iron your clothes
It might seem underrated, but it makes a big difference in what concerns your appearance.
This simple tip doesn’t take a lot of time and will make you look impeccable, in most situations. If you don’t own a steamer, maybe it’s time to consider investing in one. A travel-size steamer is also very useful, for situations when you need to get work done fast, and you haven’t got much time.
Best way to do it: iron your clothes the day before you go out. This will put together your outfit, and save you time deciding what to wear. Just grab your fresh ironed clothes, and you’re ready to go.
3. Your clothes must fit your size and your body shape
“Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman.” — Coco Chanel
Don’t buy items that are too large or too tight for you. They must fit your body shape, and make you feel comfortable when you wear them.
If you don’t feel well when you wear something, people will notice, even if you think they won’t.
As Coco Chanel said, fashion is about comfort and love.
Best way to do it: take an image improvement course, where you will discover what is your body shape, which clothes fit you and look best on you, how to wear them, how to combine them, and many other tricks that elegant ladies are very much aware of.
4. Accessories make all the difference
Accessories have the power to transform a casual outfit into a fabulous, original one.
It can be a neckless, earrings, glasses, a hand watch, bracelets, belts, a great purse, whatever matches your outfit and makes you look gorgeous and unique. If you like gloves and hats, that’s even better.
Some classic, easy ideas: small earrings, pearls necklace, a gorgeous belt.
Just be careful to remember: less is more.
How to do it: never combine gold and silver jewelry on the same outfit. On the red carpet or special evening occasions, always wear diamonds (or no jewelry at all).
5. Wear a maximum of 3 colors at the same time
Less is more. You show more taste, more elegance, and more self-confidence when you don’t dress like a clown.
How to do it: Be careful to pick a maximum of 3 colors for your outfit and accessories. They must be the right colors for your skin tone. If you have a warm skin color, choose warm colors, that have more yellow, orange, or red. If your skin tone is cold, pick cold colors, and if your skin is neutral, you can wear whatever you want, in terms of colors.
Just keep in mind these simple rules, and you’ll never fail: never more than 3 colors on your outfit.
“The best color in the whole world is the one that looks good on you.” — Coco Chanel
6. Wear the right type of lingerie
Apart from being comfortable, soft, and good quality, lingerie must be invisible and support your body well.
How to do it: If you wear a white dress or shirt that might be a little transparent, be careful to pick a bra that is white, or matches the color of your skin, and it’s going to stay where it belongs: under the clothes.
This simple rule will make you feel like an elegant lady with good taste.
7. A nice jacket/ coat/ trench for the cool season
This is the most important piece of clothing in the cold season and also a classic must-have, so make sure it fits your needs, your body, and your skin subtone.
How to do it: The purpose is not to hide who you are, but to make you feel and look gorgeous. So, if you pay attention to one piece in your wardrobe, a good trench, coat or jacket can make all the difference.
8. Show only a little bit of skin
Don’t show too much skin, it will only show you don’t have a clear understanding of what certain things work for you. Trying to be too sexual, especially if it’s not the case, might seem awkward.
How to do it: it’s okay to show a little bit of your neck, arms, or legs, as soon as it’s properly decent.
9. The right shoes
‘Shoes transform your body language and attitude. They lift you physically and emotionally.’ — Christian Louboutin
It’s not about wearing high heels. It’s about wearing shoes that are elegant and right for a certain outfit.
How to do it: pick shoes that make you feel comfortable anytime and help you walk correctly. Orthopedic shoes are a great idea, long-term.
10. Hair, make-up, nails, perfume
The beauty industry affects mental health, sometimes in a negative way. It’s important to understand that wearing more make-up and doing your nails won’t make you a better person, but it can make you feel better in some ways. Especially if you like to have fun with it.
It can improve self-esteem, long-term.
What really truly matters, is how you see yourself. If make-up can help, that’s great.
“What You think of Yourself is much more important than what others think of You” — Seneca
Sometimes, make-up can be an armor to help you face the world and express yourself.
How to do it: Applying it creatively can be a form of relaxation and becoming more confident, also in what concerns your presence on social media.
According to a study from 2012, “researchers from Northwestern University in the US found that wearing specific articles of clothing affected positively the wearer’s psychology and performance.”
“This experiment really shows how clothes can affect our attention, how we feel about ourselves and our competencies” -Camay Abraham, Master degree in Applied Psychology in Fashion
On certain days you might feel depressed. As an antidote, certain clothes or style ideas can make you feel better and act as your potential armor.
As science certifies, to dress like someone with high value can definitely improve your state of mind and shape other people’s perception of you positively.
Look good, feel better — might be a motto we all might want to embrace long-term, to improve the quality of our lives.