"Relationships don’t exist in a vacuum. Yet, all too often, we use our relationships to make our worlds smaller and smaller, to do less and less and to fall into deadening routines. Spending time together, taking chances and trying new things create a lively, energetic environment for a relationship to thrive.” — Dr. Lisa Firestone, psychologist and author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships
The concept of relational skills is usually used in the context of the corporate workplace. It’s believed that good relational skills in the workplace are the number one way to become a great employer and leader as it affects the flow of your workplace and impacts your employees’ productivity.
Here are the elements of having good relational skills, according to a post by Chron Magazine. These were discussed in the context of having a healthy environment in the workplace but are relevant in interpersonal relationships as well.
- Unwavering patience and the ability to let an agitated partner express themselves without interruption.
- Trustworthiness and honesty.
- Empathy and understanding, or being able to listen, look at, and understand the perspective of your partner.
- Reliability and dependability.
Long-term relationships are drastically different from the “fade-to-black, happily ever after” image portrayed by movies and books. When you commit to living with a person for the rest of your life, you need to put in constant work to make sure your partner is okay, that their needs are being met without yours being sacrificed.
Relationships are a two-way street where both parties are required to put in conscious effort over a long period of time.
When so many variables are involved, it’s difficult to look for guarantees and assurances. But if a person has these three vital skills, you can navigate any hurdle life throws at you with them by your side. And the best part? Even if they don’t have these skills at the moment, with time and practice, these can be incorporated into their mindset.