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Let's face it - periods suck.
No matter how much women prepare for it and how many painkillers they take, there's no way a period can be enjoyable. They make us feel icky and gooey between our legs and lethargic all day long. Some women even face severe period cramps that make it difficult for them to go about their daily chores normally.
Sometimes, the effects can spill over onto her personal life as well.
If you are reading this article, you're probably here because you want to make the woman in your life feel better about her "time of the month". First of all, let me tell you this is a noble gesture. Very few men think along those lines and you're a gem of a person if you are willing to put your partner's troubles before your own.
But no matter how many articles you read on the internet, it's impossible to get all your facts correct. And that is why I put this article together for you to make your life easier. If you're a man looking to make his partner's life easier during her periods, this article is just for you. As a woman, I have listed all the things my parter has done for me, and all the things I wished he would. By the end of the article, you will understand all the ways in which periods make a woman miserable. You'll also learn how you can do your bit in easing the struggle for her. After all, if you keep your woman happy during the worst time of the month, you can keep her happy always.
Read on, and be ready to win the "best boyfriend/husband of the year" award soon!
Hug her from behind, kiss her on the neck, and keep cuddling till she turns around to hug you back. Of course, if she resists contact or prefers to be left alone, then let her be. Consent is important, even during the menstrual cycle.
Listen to her if she gets emotional for no reason. Let her rant. Have a box of tissues handy if she starts crying. Be there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on.
Don’t take anything she says personally. Chances are - even if she says something mean, it's the hormones speaking, not her heart. Listen to her words and let them sail over your head. You can't afford to get hurt over something she said when she isn't fully in control of her emotions.
Keep tissues handy, for you never know when she might suffer from yet another crying bout. Or offer her your nicest t-shirt to wipe her tears or snot on. Yes, it will ruin a perfectly good outfit, but the adoration and compassion you'll earn after this superhuman effort will make all the pain (and the money spent) seem worth it.
Warm your hands and place them lightly on her tummy if she suffers from cramps. This will help ease her cramps and make her feel loved and cared for. You can also ask her if she would like you to place your hands on her back. Treat her like a queen and she will treat you like the king you are.
Let her choose between a back massage and a foot rub. Tell her there’s another special surprise waiting for her if she chooses both. You can make her favorite dish in the kitchen and treat her to a surprise dinner. A woman on her periods never says no to extra displays of affection. Bring out your inner teddy bear and let her receive all the special treatment she deserves.
Reach out for her hand when she least expects it, stroke it gently and tell her how much she means to you. Whisper sweet nothings in her ears and cup her cheeks with your palms when she smiles. A kiss on the forehead never goes wrong. You can also pul her into a hug and stroke the top of her head or the back of her neck till she is purring like a happy kitten.
Leave the last piece of that dark chocolate or the last slice of pizza for her. If you don't have chocolate or pizza, order some. As I mentioned before, a menstruating woman never says no to food, especially if it's something as delicious as chocolate or pizza.
If she refuses, don’t press. Don't take her no to heart. Don't get offended if she didn't warm up to your advances. Remember: most of what she is saying and speaking is not in her control. It's the hormones speaking, not your woman.
Tell her how much she means to you, all the while covering her face with warm kisses. Write a poem for her if you have to. Watch a cheesy romantic comedy together and re-enact all the sweet dialogues with her. That way, you will not only make her laugh out loud, you'll also make her forget that there's a warzone between her legs right now.
If you plan a movie date, let her choose the movie. Watch it with her till the end even if the movie is not "your type". Remember: these three days are hers and hers alone. You can go back to picking movies once her periods are over. Till then, she's the boss. Let her be one.
Offer to order in a special meal - something you know for a fact she likes. Brownie points for you if you cook one up yourself. Feel free to call her mother or her best friend for the recipe. Even if you're not a good cook and the meal ends up being a disaster, she will be pleased with the effort you put in and will be forever grateful to you for all the ways you helped her forget how miserable she is.
Most importantly, never say, “Sorry sweetheart, I’d completely forgotten you were on your period.” Nothing speaks apathy like the knowledge that you didn't even care enough to remember her dates. If you'd like to go the extra mile, feel free to download a period tracker app and keep track of her period cycle dates. If you do that, you can always bring her chocolates or sweet gifts even when she didn't tell you her period was about to come. That smile on her face when you arrive at the door with a bunch of roses or a box of chocolates will be worth a million dollars, trust me.
At the end of the day, if you feel like this is too much effort, remind yourself why you are doing this. This woman is yours and you would do anything to make her feel happier.
Being her boyfriend is a full-time job; other than the last point, the rest is valid for any other day as well.