He may not walk her down the aisle either
It’s supposed to be the happiest day of your life, a celebration of love and unity surrounded by the people closest to you. And yet, in a shocking turn of events, a bride-to-be has excluded two of her siblings from the guest list. Why? Because her future in-laws do not support their life choices.
A man, posting under the username u/Mammoth_Inside_2431, took to the Reddit AITA community with a dilemma. He has five children, one of whom is getting married. During a recent family visit he discovered that the bride-to-be had not invited two of her siblings to the wedding.
He questioned her about this and learned that her future in-laws do not support her siblings’ lifestyle choices. They would not be comfortable with them being guests at the wedding. The man was deeply upset about this. The two children excluded are both in non-traditional marriages and have adopted children who the family adore.
In the post the man said he had graciously offered to fund the majority of wedding expenses. His future son-in-law and his parents, who live abroad, are not in a position to contribute. He went on to say, “I have no issues with it and just want my little girl to be happy.” But, upon learning the reasons why his two sons were being excluded from the guest list, he said he was considering withdrawing his offer.
The majority of the Reddit AITA community supported the man’s decision with user Crockofpot commenting, “I would never put my money into an event that discriminated against two of my kids like this.” They also thought the bride had acted cowardly by not telling her siblings why they were not being invited.
Another suggested, “Why not invite everyone, inform everyone of who is coming, and let the “uncomfortable” ones stay home?”
Ali06nd praised the man adding, “Good for you for standing up for your kids and their families. They're lucky to have a father who supports them and advocates for them.”
Devastated by this turn of events the man admitted he cannot understand how his daughter can deny her own flesh and blood the privilege of being part of such an important day. He told her he might not be walking her down the aisle if her siblings weren’t invited to the wedding.
Marriage.com says, “while alternatives to marriage exist, they may not be legally recognized in all jurisdictions.” The bride's future in-laws may be from such a jurisdiction.
Author of Higher Etiquette, Lizzie Post says brides often get caught up in wedding stress, which can lead to unintentionally hurting people's feelings. Brides can become oblivious to the fact that loved ones wanted to celebrate with them, instead focusing on other aspects of the wedding. It's essential to be aware and understanding when someone asks why they weren't invited.