How your beliefs shape you and what to do about it.
This is the reality of the world we live in. Through your thoughts and beliefs is how you create yourself. As James Allen has said, “As a man thinketh, so he is. As he continues to think, so he remains.”
Dr. Joseph Murphy had similarly wrote,
“As you sow in your subconscious mind, so shall you reap in your body and environment.”
If you want something different, then you must believe something different. Until you create a new narrative around what’s possible and who you can become, then things don’t change for you.
The remainder of this article will further explain how it works. Here we go.
Disbelief Creates Negative Results
“Disbelief is a negative power. When the mind disbelieves or doubts, the mind attracts reasons to support the disbelief.” -David J. Schwartz
If you won’t believe it from me, how about a study from the field of psychology? Richard Wiseman, a former street magician turned author and researcher once conducted a very simple and interesting study.
Taking two groups of people: 1) Those who proclaimed themselves as “unlucky people,” and; 2) Those who thought they were “lucky people.”
He would then place a $20 dollar bill on the street as they walked by and watch what happen.
Now, the results shouldn’t surprise you: The people who believed they were “lucky” would spot the bill and pick it up almost every time, while the “unlucky” group would almost always miss it and walked right by.
The purpose of this study is to illustrate that what you believe determines what you see, how you act, and consequently who you become. As Wiseman further notes,
“If you’re anxious that you won’t find a parking place, then literally your vision narrows. You lose your peripheral vision.”
This is completely correct. The psychological concept of ‘selective attention’ says that what you focus on expands. If you’re not looking for something, then you won’t find it.
As Dan Sullivan similarly writes, “Your eyes can only see and your ears can only hear what your brain is looking for.”
If you don’t expect to succeed, then you won’t. If you don’t believe there are opportunities out there for you, then you won’t find them. Your mind will only give to you what you ask of it. Said Tony Robbins,
“Remember, your brain, like the genie, will give you whatever you ask of it. So be careful what you ask for — whatever you look for you’ll find.”
You Train the World How to Treat You
“You’ve got to tell the world how to treat you. If the world tells you how you’re going to be treated, you are in trouble.” -James Baldwin
There’s one rule to life that I know for certain, and that is: you get what you tolerate. Your life is not shaped by the external, such as the economy or your job, but rather, what you believe you can do and deserve.
As Anthony Moore writes,
“The biggest obstacle in your life isn’t your boss, your job, the economy, other people, or God. It’s yourself.”
Sure, external factors do play a part. We’re going through crazy times right now, and your life may have been flipped upside down. However, in the end, you ultimately get to decide how that affects your life. As Byron Katie writes,
“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do.”
To be clear, I am not beyond any of this. Twenty-twenty was meant to be the year I lived my dreams of traveling the world, and that was cut short early.
However, I’m not remembering this as the year that my dreams were crushed, but rather, as the year I came closer to my family and God. It’s the year I was tested and went to the next level. So absolutely, did this year happen for me, not to me.
You can always make anything into a blessing or a curse. The problem isn’t the event itself, but rather, the emotions and meaning you put around it. As Ryan Holiday has said,
“There is no good or bad without us, there is only perception. There is the event itself and the story we tell ourselves about what it means.”
Once you do let go of all the unnecessary pain and suffering created by something beyond your control, you can then focus your energy and thoughts towards creating the circumstances you do want for life. Which is how you tell the world how to treat you, rather than letting it decide for you.
Creating a new narrative around the events of your life and who you can become isn’t wishful thinking.
Your beliefs will set the tone for the rest of your life. So, why not make them ones that will serve you and move you to a better place?
If you look for the negative, you’ll find it. If you look for the positive, you’ll also find it. The question is: which will you look for?