Introduce your pet to your partner slowly, with scent, and positive experiences

Quina Baterna

We all know the story. Boy meets girl. Boy falls in love with the girl. Boy and girls start dating. Until finally, it gets serious enough for both of them to move in together. Everything is looking great in the relationship, except for one thing… Someone has a cat, and they are not happy at all.

Unlike dogs, cats are very discerning when it comes to who they let into their life. While some of them may be okay in the presence of temporary lovers, not all cats will be happy to have your new partner in their home for good.

Cats Are Sensitive About Their Territory

Despite popular belief, many cats treat their owners as part of their family. Our feline friends can get a little possessive over us. If they do not like who their fur parent has brought in to them, they may either be perpetually anxious or lash out in destructive acts of rage.

When your cat cannot stand the new love of your life, this can lead to arguments that can be detrimental to your relationship. It is no wonder that desperate partners are trying to find themselves on the good side of a fussy feline.

How Do You Know if A Cat Does Not Like You?

There are several signs that a cat may not like your partner. However, if you are already here, it is likely you already suspect that they are already in the red with your cat. There are generally two ways that cats react to people they dislike – anxiety or aggression.

For the confused, here are few ways for you to know if your feline does not approve of their new roommate:

Anxious Behavior

In the face of a perceived threat, some cats tend to exhibit anxious behavior. When a cat becomes anxious in your presence, you will notice that they are always hiding, run away when they see you, and refuse to eat, drink, or use the litter box.

While this behavior may appear relatively harmless, it can cause several issues when done for an extended period of time. Anxious behavior can lead to stomach issues or kidney infections due to the lack of eating or drinking to a tendency. Additionally, the cat may be at risk of trying to run away from home, which will expose them to possible car accidents, bad weather, and other animals.

Aggressive Behavior

Extremely territorial cats will take their dislike a step further by exhibiting aggressive behavior that can range from mild hissing and swatting to more extreme actions like peeing or destroying their personal items. While initially alarming, aggressive behavior is normal and not necessarily permanent.

In fact, aggressive behavior is even more common when introducing kittens or other cats to your cat to assert dominance. However, there is a risk of making aggressive behavior permanent if you do not properly address the source of discomfort. Without proper management, your cat’s aggression may lead to damaged furniture or potential injuries to your partner.

What to Do So Your Cat Will Like Your Romantic Partner

While mild discomfort from new housemates is perfectly normal, it doesn’t have to be permanent. There are several ways to make the process of introducing a new partner to your cat less painful to everyone involved. Here are a few of them:

Don’t Rush the Introduction Process

One guaranteed way for your cat to dislike your new partner is by introducing them on move-in day. On its own, meeting a new person can be unnerving for your cat already, let alone bringing them into their territory. Introduce your partner to your cat long before they will move in with an increasing length of time in-between visits. Start with a few minutes, hours, overnight, to even days at a time.

Avoid making any massive changes to your home right when a new partner comes in. Your cat will need to feel a sense of stability as they are adjusting to a new person. If you are going to combine several pieces of furniture, bring them in bit by bit so that your cat does not feel as if their home suddenly becomes unrecognizable.

Begin Scent Switching Early

Bringing in various belongings that belong to your partner before introducing them can help ease the transition. Having items such as clothes and shoes that contain your partner’s scent in your home beforehand helps your cat get familiar with their presence.

While this may seem silly, cats familiarize themselves with family members with their noses first. Despite never seeing someone before, if they smell like family, they are more likely to accept them faster.

Associate Your Partner With Positive Experiences

Cats are intelligent creatures that can often put two and two together. For them to begin to trust your partner, your cat has to associate them with positive things. Like how Pavlov used the bell to signal dogs that it’s time to eat, your partner needs to announce their presence to your cat with good experiences.

You can make sure that the first few meetings with your cat are pleasant by using the aid of cat treats, toys, catnip, pheromones, and calming music. Additionally, avoid forcing your cat to interact when they don’t feel like it and ask that your partner does not come smelling like other animals when entering your home.

Get Your Cat and Partner to Like Each Other

Growing a family is always challenging, but thankfully, it’s not impossible. While cats may be a little picky at times, it does not mean that they will reject every person that you invite into your home. Many times, they are just looking out for their well-being.

Domesticated cats rely a lot on their owners for safety, security, and affection. As long as you can show your furry friend that a new lover will not get in the way of those things, it’s only a matter of time before they accept them into your home.

However, it’s good to remember that while you can do everything right when introducing a new partner to your cat, it’s no assurance that your cat will accept them right away. Sometimes, the most you can expect is just peaceful co-existence. But who knows, sometimes the best kind of love from a cat takes time.

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Quina is a writer, cat mom and artist. Her greatest joys in life are creating remarkable experiences and writing about them.


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