Whether platonic or romantic, every relationship thrives off of good communication. Learning how to effectively communicate and being honest in your actions will build trust and set the foundation for stable, long-lasting success.
1. It All Starts With You
Understanding how you and your partner or friend communicates is essential. Being self-aware of your communication styles will help you understand why you or the other person isn't able to understand what the other is saying. You can do this a number of ways. One is analyzing your birth chart and discovering which zodiac sign is ruled by Mercury (the planet of communication). This will inform you on how you preferred method of communication is and what triggers different responses. Taking personality tests, such as Myers Briggs, as well as learning each other's love languages is key too. If you receive love differently than how you give love, it'll help your partner/friend better identify how to meet your needs. Alternatively, self-introspection and documenting patterns and triggers is just as helpful too.
2. Express Yourself
Creating an open dialogue with the other party and maintaining a safe space when doing so will help soothe any misunderstandings and prevent potential arguments. Voicing your concerns and expressing your negative emotions calmly is important. By doing this, you are informing the other person that their actions make you uncomfortable or even vice versa, they make you feel safe. It gives the other person an opportunity to learn and adjust their behavior. Most times, people don't realize they do or say certain things and the effect it has on others.
Boundary-setting is difficult for everyone of all age ranges. It feels like confrontation, when it truly isn't. Setting a boundary doesn't necessarily mean "no" either. By setting boundaries for yourself, you're ensuring your safety and comfort. Setting a boundary beforehand is much easier to address than when it is crossed. However approaching this type of conversation is never easy.
Starting sentences with "I" rather than "You" shifts the blame away from the other person and therefore redirects the energy of the conversation. For example, saying "I feel this when you do that" sounds a lot less intense than "You did this to me". Following up with, "It'd really make me feel safer or more comfortable if you did this instead" creates a more productive interaction.
As always, communicate with the intention to love unconditionally and you will always be rewarded, whether it be a lesson or the strengthening of an everlasting connection.