You might not have been on the dating scene for a while, and since the last time that you were out there looking for someone to connect with, you may have noticed that you changed. Maybe, you want different things out of a relationship now. Maybe, you have different expectations or different boundaries, or maybe, you are just looking for different traits in the person that you want to spend your time with. So, how do you go into the dating world as the person that you are now? How do you reintroduce yourself to the dating scene? Though the answers to these questions may be different for everyone, here are a few suggestions.
1. Switch up your wing man or wing woman.
Instead of having the same friends that you used to join you in the quest to find someone that you connect with, go out with different friends. You might find that your friends know people that you have never met, and you may also be able to create new ways to go out to find the person that you connect with.
2. Explore different places.
Instead of going out and spending your time at the hangouts that you used to go to, try to find new places where you can meet new people and have new experiences. Look for a scene that fits both your personality and comfort level, and try to be open minded to meeting people that you may not have dated in the past.
3. Change your approach.
Maybe, you used to wait until someone came up to you to talk to him or her and get to know him or her. Instead of doing this, try to be more assertive and go up to the person that you are interested in. Start the conversation instead of waiting for him or her to do so, and ask the questions that you really want to know. You might find that the person opens up to you, and you never know, the two of you might have the same wants and needs when it comes to a relationship.
4. Take it easy.
Though you might be expecting to go out and find someone that you connect with right away, this may not happen the first time that you go out, so take your time, and if you have to try again, then try to take your time to do that.
Going onto the dating scene with new expectations can be difficult, but if you change your surroundings and your approach, you might find what you were looking for.