You may be going out on dates so you can get to know someone, but you might also want to focus on what you want instead of playing games. You might want to find a person that has the same or similar interests to you without playing the dating game and you might be trying to find a way to show the person that you are going out with that you mean business when it comes to a relationship. So, how do you do this? What is the best way to communicate your needs without getting distracted by playing games or doing other things that can take you off course of your goals? Though the answers to these questions may be different for everyone, here are a few suggestions.
1. State your wants and needs right away.
Be up front about your wants and needs. Let the other person know that you are looking for certain things in a relationship and let him or her know that you aren't trying to settle for less than this. Talk to him or her about his or her wants or needs and see if the two align.
2. Set boundaries.
Let the other person know that communicating is important to you. Let him or her know that you would like to talk about things so you know if the two of you have the same views. Tell him or her the boundaries that you have when it comes to a relationship and let him or her tell you about his or her boundaries. Try to compromise so both of you are open with each other and do your best not to step over each other's boundaries.
3. Be open about how your date is going.
Let the other person know how you feel about the date that you are on. Tell him or her how you feel about him or her, and talk about the future. Let him or her know if you see your date turning into a second date. Also, if you do, let him or her know why.
Knowing what you want in the dating world might be something that is important to you, but communicating these needs to your date might seem difficult. Nevertheless, it can be done. So, be open about your needs and wants in a relationship, set boundaries, and let your date know if you are ready for a second date.