You might have been in a relationship with someone and thought that it was going well, but then, the two of you broke up. But what happens if the person comes back as soon as it gets warm outside? What do you do if you find out that this is a pattern? How do you handle this type of situation? Though the answers to these questions may be different for everyone, here are some suggestions.
1. Try to find out the reason for the season.
Talk to the other person and ask him or her why he or she disappeared during the fall and winter months. Try to find out if it had anything to do with the holidays or if he or she has certain activities that he or she likes to share with you during a certain season.
2. Give it some thought.
Decide whether you are willing to get back with him or her during the summer and think about how you will handle it if he or she leaves again as soon as it gets cold. Weigh the pros and cons, and reflect on your past experiences with the person before making a final decision.
3. Try to set boundaries.
Let the other person know how you feel about being broken up with and if you have any expectations on how this new chance that the two of you are taking should go. Try to let him or her know what you will put up with and what you won't. Be clear and be honest about what you want.
4. Communicate about your future.
Talk to the other person about how you see your future together and ask him or her if he or she has the same vision. Talk about your wants and needs in the relationship, and ask your partner what his or her wants are needs are. Communicate with each other about how the two of you can fulfill each other's needs, and do your best to be on the same page.
5. Reflect on the new chance you two have been given.
Try to pay attention to see if this new chance has changed things for the better. Look for old patterns. Try to see if your relationship is going in the same direction that it did before or if the two of you have developed a new way of doing things.
If you have your ex-partner ask you back when it begins to get nice outside, you may wonder why this is happening. So, talk to him or her and let him or her know how you feel about the situation. Set boundaries, and communicate about your future to see if the two of you are on the same page.