Fear of Commitment

Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue

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You might be in the position where you want to date, but you are not ready due to your fear of commitment. So, what do you do? How can you get over the barriers of your fear? Will you ever be in a happy relationship? Though the answers to these questions may be different for everyone, here are a few suggestions.

1. Find the source.

Think about why you might have a fear of commitment. Did you grow up in a family where your parents separated? Have you had your heart broken in the past? Try to find the source of your fear, so you can face it and move forward.

2. Train your mind.

Go into each date as if it is a new experience. Try to forget about what was done to you in the past and focus on the future. Avoid blaming the person that you are dating for mistakes that were made by others in the past and give the new person a chance to prove him or herself.

3. Don't mess it up before it gets started.

Sometimes, people can get nervous and instead of letting a situation play out like it should, they break-up with the other person or are not honest in the relationship. Don't let your mind play tricks on you. Even if you are nervous about what is to come, let it play out. You might find that your new relationship is better than you expected it would be.

If you have a fear of commitment, it may be time to figure out why. Try to understand the source of your fear, and when you do start dating again, treat every situation as a new one.

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Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue writes lifestyle articles.

Omaha, NE

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