Speak Wisdom to Your Younger Self

Nicole Akers


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If I could go back and impart a few nuggets of wisdom to my younger self, I'd like to shake the younger me a little and say you'll wish you knew, but not in an offensive way. Because presentation is everything in getting through to a person. There is a little marketing in everything we do. But, if I could gain a foothold of respectability and be able to speak with wisdom and credibility, more as a trusted confidant and less as a perent, I'd like to pass on some awareness that can only be gained in hindsight.
From a respectable position, I'd say something to the effect of, "Hey Kid, Lean in and let me share a couple things you'll wish you knew..."
If I could put an arm around myself, and my younger version leaned in and laid a head on my shoulder, I'd have a lot to say. Hopefully, we could have a conversation and talk some things through. In reality, we think we know everything the first time we encounter an experience in life, but we don't know how little we actually know. Still, these things remain true:
"Knowing too much of your future is never a good thing." — Rick Riordan

At the end of life, too many people wish they had written volumes about the wisdom gleaned while living.

Write the book before you’re dead. Do it now.

We’re human. We make mistakes. It’s what we do about them that matters. I’ve made a lot of stupid mistakes, but if I could prevent them I’d send a Back to the Future kind of note, then fast-forward to see how my life plays out.

"Knowledge is power,"

as Sir Francis Bacon is credited with saying.

If I could send a few nuggets of wisdom to my younger self, it would things like this:

Keeping up with the Joneses is crap

Materialism will not only clutter your life but also your heart and soul. Don’t keep up with the Joneses — they’re broke. They live paycheck-to-paycheck and are one hiccup away from being in the poorhouse. Save money and invest it so you’ll have it later.

Live simply. Be happy.

Don’t worry about what other people think

Too much of my life I spent wondering what others thought of me. I’ve learned not to care what peers think. They’re peers who don’t have your best interest in mind. Many of them are critical and jealous. Some will purposely steal your best for their own good while kicking your shins and stepping on your head to make themselves more important.

Look down instead of looking around to be your best self.
Be weird.

Keep a trusted source of advisors

Opinions are like bottoms, as everyone is fond of saying. Get too many of them and you’ll never get anything done. If you need advice, get it from a trusted source of close networking friends. Not the casual acquaintance kind of friends you might hang out with at the bar, but people who are centered in who they are and have the gumption to get where they are going.

Find people who are out of the mainstream and wash in their life philosophy.

Live for today

Don’t get so overwhelmed in busyness that you forget to accomplish your purpose. Life is busy. There’s much to accomplish, but not so much that you can’t get it done if you prioritize.

Live like you're dying before you're dying.

Suck it up Buttercup

Life is hard. So what. You will work hard if you want to be a success. Focus. Be driven. Work on what matters and let the other stuff fall off. If you’re not prepared to work hard for your dreams, be prepared to live a mediocre life.

Stay away from those who complain too much or need too much. They’ll drag you down.

Travel more

Get out and see the world as early in life as possible. It will shape your whole world and open you up to possibilities you never knew existed. Learn from different cultures and broaden your horizons.

Forget where you came from and go places that will change your family tree.

Forgive better

Admittedly, I’m still working on this one. My life isn’t over. Hopefully, I have a lot more life left and can write another letter to include other things I haven’t learned yet. Some things are easier to forgive than others, but unforgiveness is a prison for me.

Forgive as quickly as possible, even the worst kind of hurts.


Be thankful every day.

People who are grateful have:

  • A greater sense of well-being
  • Improved physical health
  • Higher self-esteem, resilience, and empathy
  • Less aggression
  • More optimism
  • Better sleep

Love, my older self

P.S. Eat good food and don’t forget to be kind.

What would you say to yourself?

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