There’s a great storyteller in each of us who helps stories come to life by telling lies.
You don’t consider yourself a storyteller?
You tell yourself stories every day. We all do.
Your storyteller comes alive each time you develop a story from someone else’s details without fact-checking them for yourself. The story fell into your lap and you want to run it while the story is hot, even if you don’t have all the facts and your truth is slanted.
Your inner storyteller goes to work.
You’ve written a fantastic story that’s based on lies.
You perpetuate the bill of goods you were sold.
You should have fact-checked.
You should have conducted your own interview, but you were in too much of a hurry to run a story in the heat of the moment. The ratings were good and you failed to get perspective.
Without perspective, we live in a place of toxicity and misunderstanding, where we create stories that accuse without basis in reality.
One person’s clarity is another person’s fuzzy perspective as we choose to be offended by someone’s choices. We can choose offense or we can choose to understand. We can choose tolerance if we want to stay impartial. We live in a toxic culture, and unless we choose to understand we can always find fault to attack someone.
If you choose offense you will always find it.
My kids are excellent storytellers. Each one lies to herself all the time about the offense she imagines the other sibling perpetrated upon her. Two girls can stir up a bunch of drama. It’s usually because one doesn’t understand the perspective of the other. Sometimes it’s over petty stuff. I’d rather walk away than deal with arguing that has no basis in truth.
“Mom, she hit me.”
Don’t hit your sister.
“But, she came into my room again and took my stuff without asking.”
She thinks you’re cool and wants to be like you. It’s a compliment.
“Don’t take her stuff, because you both do it. Give her stuff back.”
You can tell yourself a story, or set aside your emotions to get to the truth.
Stop telling yourself lies about the other person.
Walk away from drama so you can stay true to yourself and not be drawn into a fight.
"If birds sing without worrying about who is listening to them, and monkeys dance without worrying about who is watching them, and hyenas laugh without worrying about who is mocking them, then you too must do what you do best without worrying about who is ridiculing you."
― Matshona Dhliwayo
It’s true about life too.
Some people will look for a fight and provoke you unnecessarily.
Anger rules the day instead of compassion and understanding.
It’s a toxic culture in a world that says you must fight back when provoked.
The truth is that you don’t have to do or say anything.
People are watching and that’s okay. If they want to get tangled up in the drama, there’s nothing you can do to stop them. If they want to dissociate themselves based on lies, it is their option to do so.
You don’t have to answer lies.
In times like these, your closest friends stand up for what they know is true.
Those who know your character will stick with you.
It is refreshing to have friends who are willing to reject the mob mentality and think for themselves because it is easy to throw in with the bullies.
It takes a certain amount of willfulness and independence, not to mention self-actualization, to realize what you stand for, and stand for it instead of standing with the crowd and yelling about what someone else is against.
Some will share life with you for a while, but your friends will stay with you for the long haul. Your very best friends will stand with you through good times and bad times because they know the truth of your character.
Truth will stand the test of time.
Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at evening. — Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
When you give yourself time and space from the offense your actions become as pure as your character and you don’t give in to being reactionary.
Stand strong in who you are and stay close with those who stand with you.
Keep playing the game of life, but don’t get caught up in the drama, because it will sweep you away into a whirlwind of negativity.
Has your inner storyteller been working overtime?
Slow down, get perspective, and find the voice of truth before your storytelling gets too carried away.