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My 3 Best Dating Tips for 40-Year Olds

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Dating Tips for 40-Year Olds is just a story, really. About my dating life. Style. Why I get dates but haven't found the one. Also, why the modern of online dating is an absolute crapshoot and why you shouldn't take it personally if she doesn't want to see you again.

My Best 3 Dating Tips for 40-Year-Olds are:

1. Change your dating approach.

2. Don’t seek external fulfillment through people, partners, jobs, or things. Do the self-work.

3. Screw the convention. Don't follow the herd (or do, but just walk differently). I went to live in South America for six months. It taught me the value of travel. Of different cultures. Of what truly matters to me.

Here is why this matters:

“Taylor, why can’t you just get a job and an American girlfriend?” my best friend, Matt asked me. “It’s time to grow up man. It’s time to be a citizen of the world. Get married, have kids, move home.”

“Yeah, I hear you. I tried already, remember? I moved to New York. I went on more dates there than a fucking a rabid raccoon. And fuck you, I got on the subway. I put on my work clothes. I went to work. Remember how it went? It felt like a goddamn vasectomy every day.”

“Yeah, well, that’s life. You have to grow up. Stop mooching off people,” he said sternly. I wanted to throw the phone through the wall. What did you say? What did you just say?

“Okay, I get that. But I lived abroad for ten years man. I did what I loved. Yeah, it wasn’t forever, but I loved it. I loved the challenge of it. It’s no different than you choose to get married. You did it because you loved her. It felt right, no?”

“Yeah, you live with your dad and little brother, and you don’t pay rent. It’s different.”

“I missed my family. My brother. My dad. Yeah, it’s free, but I’m saving money while I figure out my next move. I’d let them live for free if they needed some time to figure shit out.”

“Move out. Get a job. It’s how you learn to be a man. Women don’t like mooches Taylor. They see right through that shit. Who’s going to pay for the first date? You or them?”

His words stung like a million bee stingers entering my body at once.

Dating Tips for 40-Year Olds Is About Letting Go of Ego

Today, October 4th, 2018, already feels like a freight train of a day. I’m standing at my desk with my chair on top of the table typing furiously into this metal machine that gives me purpose.

Dating tip number one is to do something you've never done. Hire a life coach. A matchmaker. Go to Hedonism. I don't know, just try something different.

If you keep doing the same thing expecting the same results, well, that's by definition, insanity.

This is what I did to mix up my dating life.

A year ago, I traveled to South America and lived on a sailboat. I met amazing people. My first dates were full of rum, tequila, and a decent amount of decent sex. But more importantly, I connected with these women. I had fun. I could see the spark in their eyes and yeah, dancing in the moonlight on the Caribbean is, well, liberating AF.

My motto is: screw the conventional life. Dating. Money. Business. Love. There is just part of me that wants to buck back like a guy riding a wild stallion with spurs. And yes, my back is terrible, so if my life’s mission is to tell weird dating stories about my unconventional life, I’ll buck until I’m broke, hurt, and homeless.

It’s who I am.

And I’m a stubborn 41-year old... and my dating life doesn't need to be so stubborn.

Adapt. Change the approach. Change your mindset.

Yeah, living in a traveling van sounds rough, but maybe it’s fun for a month too. Maybe you are out there living your best life and then suddenly, you meet your best life partner?

Change sounds miserable at times. Where do I shower? Eat? Sleep? Why do I need to date differently?

Being single in the city, being new to the city, is tough. And this is silly, finding and meeting women in Chicago. I find the connection difficult. And I think most women would agree that men in the big towns (or any towns) are like seagulls flying to the next bit of scrap food it sees in the distance.

GAAWWWW. GAWWWWW — there is something better out there, there is always something better.

My Best 3 Dating Tips for 40-Year-Olds are:

1. Change your dating approach.

2. Don’t seek external fulfillment through people, partners, jobs, or things. Do the self-work.

3. Screw the convention. Don't follow the herd (or do, but just walk differently). I went to live in South America for six months. It taught me the value of travel. Of different cultures. Of what truly matters to me.

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