Make your relationship last by being respectful.
I’ve had plenty of relationships (I’m not sure if that is good or bad) and made plenty of mistakes. But something I learned early on is that withholding praise, enthusiasm, or acknowledgment is never good. Doing this is inconsiderate and demonstrates a lack of respect for your partner.
For example, when your partner excitedly tells you how they spent four hours scrubbing and sanitizing the filthy bathroom (primarily due to your sloppiness), and now it’s so clean that you could eat off the floor, the least you can do is thank them. Muttering “Uh huh” as you point the remote at the television while clicking away is unacceptable.
Instead, show your partner that you appreciate their contribution and acknowledge the value of the time and energy they expended. At the very least, try to understand that the accomplishment has value to your partner, so act like a decent person, say thank you, and acknowledge a job well done.
Even if you have to fake like you are excited by what your partner did, do it. It’s okay to pretend for a good reason, such as making your partner feel cared for, appreciated, and significant. Hopefully, over time, you will grow to respect your partner’s contributions as any civilized human being would.
However, if you intentionally withhold your praise or acknowledgment for something your partner did, you likely have issues you need help with. There is no excuse for this.
You need to ask yourself why you don’t care about your partner’s feelings or are trying to hurt them. If you can’t understand and resolve your behavior on your own, consider seeking professional help to get answers about why you are doing this.
Working on yourself is essential so you won’t hurt others and have unhealthy relationships.