Welcome to this week's post, 5 Fresh At Home Date Nights! When is the last time you went on a date with your significant other? It’s so easy to prioritize the kids, the house, and just about everything else over ourselves and our relationship with our partner. It's easier said than done to set aside time for date night, trust me I know. But, I am guessing after the kiddos go down you and your partner probably sift through Netflix endlessly until you find something, watch 20 minutes of it, and fall asleep am I right?
We all do this, myself included, but if you have the time to watch TV, you have time for a date night. You don’t need to go out or spend a lot of money to connect with your partner and replenish your relationship. Read on for some fresh at home date ideas you probably haven’t tried yet.
Something fun to do with your significant other, at home, after the kids go to bed, that’s new? Yes! Let’s get your date night groove back, mama!
You Color My World
Color together. Yes, I’m serious! I know it may seem a little juvenile or cheesy but it’s actually a lot of fun. Date night is about having fun, spending time together, and reconnecting. Try stepping out of your routine and doing something different. You might just love it.
There are all kinds of adult coloring books out there and plenty for men as well. Hop on Amazon and pick out a book for you and your significant other along with a set of colored pencils or fine-tipped markers. I prefer markers because they don’t take as much effort to color with and they have a bigger color payout.
After the kids fall asleep, pull out some snacks, your coloring books, and get to it! Did I mention that coloring reduces stress and can improve your focus? Bonus points for this date night idea, you’re welcome!
For The Love of Food
Meal prep together! Get the benefit of being with your partner and getting ahead on the week’s meals. Have you ever cooked side by side? It can be really fun when you aren’t trying to get dinner on the table in 30 minutes. Take your time cooking together, enjoy the process, and maybe even try a new recipe!
Pick a meal or two for the next day or the following week, whatever seems the most approachable. Start small, the idea is to enjoy your time together not to stress over dirting every pan in your kitchen. An easy favorite of my husband and I is to make a big batch of breakfast burritos that we can freeze and reheat throughout the week for an easy breakfast on the go. As they say, teamwork makes the dream work! Help each other and spend time together. This one is a win-win.
Get Physical…ly Active
Workout together. Even if you don’t have any equipment, you can do this one. Chances are you’re so busy being a parent that you probably don’t have time to workout. (Although chasing toddlers counts, right?) I know you might not feel like working out after a long day but give it a chance. We are not talking Crossfit here.
Start with simple calisthenics and work up to whatever you have the time and energy for. My husband and I really enjoy taking turns coming up with the workout. Sometimes it's simple, 25 sit-ups, 10 push-ups, etc other times we have more energy and get out the dumbbells and jump rope.
This date allows you to be active and change up the lounging on the couch routine. We have also found that it helped curb our nighttime snacking. So even if you think a few lunges and sit-ups isn’t going to do anything, if you pair it with axing the snacks, you might just find that it is pretty effective! Getting active with your partner is just plain fun so get to it!
Date Night Q & A
We can all get stuck in a routine of checking in with our partners about the same things over and over. How was your day? How are the kids, etc? After being together for a while it’s easy to fall back on the familiar.
When is the last time you had a really meaningful talk with your partner that doesn’t relate to your jobs, the kids, or the house? This date night is all about reconnecting in a way that sparks something new. Maybe you’ll even learn something about each other or tap into an idea that you’ve never talked about.
If you are wondering where to get these questions, well you are in luck! You can access my list of 10 meaningful date night questions for free on my website, Motherhood Unfolding. I hope these spark some new connections between you. Set up a nice dinner, let the conversation flow, and enjoy dating each other.
Make s’mores together. There is something both romantic and nostalgic about roasting marshmallows, isn’t there? If you don’t have an outdoor fire pit or barbeque, no problem, you can make s’mores in your oven! This would make a great Friday night date when you feel like indulging a little. After the kiddos start snoozing, grab the graham crackers, chocolate, and marshmallows and have at it!
If you have the opportunity to go outside, take your s’mores and head out under the stars. Look up, breathe deeply, and savor your sweet company. Make a new memory with your partner and enjoy the simple joys of everyday life together.
There you have it! All of these dates can be done at home after the kids go to bed and for little to no money. Try to aim for at least one date night a week to reconnect with your partner. Turn parent mode off and just be you and your partner again. Sounds nice right?!
Dating each other throughout your marriage and making each other a priority will not only strengthen your marriage but also strengthen the foundation on which your entire family is built. Make time for each other. It’s truly essential.
Happy Date Night!