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Let me tell you something that might be a hard pill to swallow.
Every single action you take has a strong impact on your relationships. You could say or do something to make someone gradually fall in love with you.
On the flip side, something you say or do could make someone exit your life and never return. To prevent negative events from happening, here are several bad habits you need to avoid.
Keeping A Scorecard.
I see it happen all the time. People get annoyed by something their partner did or said. Then, they use that as an excuse to behave like an asshole at some point in the future.
Keeping a relationship scorecard will inevitably undermine trust between you both. After all, it's a manipulative tactic that people use to show resentment or bitterness (with what they perceive to be a valid excuse).
Needing Someone Else To Fix Your Problems.
If there's a giant red flag waving at someone in the face, it's probably this. Relying on other people creates dependency. And as you'd expect, being completely dependent on someone to be happy is a surefire way to create an extremely unhealthy relationship.
Wanting To Be Together 24/7.
Relationships require a little bit of independence. Otherwise, you'll get so damn annoyed by your partner if you're spending every moment of the day with them. Quoting an article published by Psychology Today:
"What’s most important is that spouses agree on how much time they want together and apart. When handled correctly, each partner feels they’re getting their fair share. Here perceptions are more important than the actual number of hours. Even if couples spend very little time together or very little time apart, the relationship is fine if the proportion is what they both want. If each partner has different perspectives, however, the amount of time together and apart can be a source of conflict. For some partners, too much together time can be suffocating, while for others, too little can make them feel insecure and isolated."
You're different people. Thus, it's probable that you enjoy doing different things. Spend some time apart for (at least) a few hours per week. The effect it'll have on the quality of your relationship will be profound.