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A lot of people think they're a perfect partner when they're actually not.
They lay in bed at night and wonder why nobody wants to fall in love and have a long-lasting relationship with them. So despite having high standards for other people, they rarely think about the qualities that would make someone else want to be with them.
Although that might be a hard pill for you to swallow, it’s true. So if you want to fall in love, you need to give up the following bad habits that prevent you from having a great relationship.
You Talk About Yourself Way Too Much.
Let's do a mental exercise together. Take a moment to think about how boring you might be in a conversation. If you don't allow the other person to speak about their own opinions and perspectives, they'll quickly get bored talking to you. After all, a conversation is simply an exchange of ideas and thoughts between two people. It shouldn't be one-sided.
To improve your chances of finding a long-lasting relationship, give the other person a chance to speak. Because when you give other people an opportunity to talk about things they enjoy, they'll mentally associate you with an enjoyable conversation.
You Don't Implement Attractive Habits.
Sorry to break it to you... but for some people, it’s true. However, there is some good news. You can make yourself a lot more attractive by implementing better habits. Quoting an article published by Psychology Today:
"Personalities can be attractive or unattractive. Higher social status is generally more attractive than lower. We are generally more attracted to people who we live in proximity to us and who become familiar to us. We are generally more attracted to people who like us. And we are generally more attracted to people who are similar to us.
The good news, then, is that we can compensate for deficiencies in the looks department by improving our personalities, by increasing our social status, by becoming familiar to people we want to like us, by showing our liking in the hopes of reciprocity, and by seeking out people who are more similar than different to us."
If you're trying to fall in love with someone who's incredibly athletic, sitting on the couch eating nachos all day probably isn't something they'd find attractive.
You get the idea. Think about the qualities that your ideal partner would find attractive. Then, implement them in your own life.