How often have you wanted to ask out your crush, but never dared to do so? If you’re anything like me, the answer is probably something like “all the time.”
It’s a difficult thing to do. The constant fear of rejection is what holds most people back from taking the first steps to saying how they genuinely feel.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. Because once you build up the confidence to ask them out, you’ll discover a world of endless potential.
You will stop letting fear hold you back from achieving your biggest dreams.
And you will stop allowing your thoughts to control your life because you will realize that you’re in control of your destiny.
Why Should I Ask Out My Crush?
Good question. The short answer is that it’s better to know if they feel the same than to spend the rest of your life wondering what could have been.Seneca said it best: “We suffer more in imagination than in reality.”
What he meant is that we often spend our days overthinking instead of taking action to create a better life. So when you find yourself falling deeply in love with somebody else, don’t keep yourself awake all night wondering if they feel the same.
When I began the process of overcoming my fear of rejection to say how I genuinely felt, my entire life changed. Ryan Holiday, the author of the obstacle is the way, speaks about the process of treating every event as an opportunity to create a better future. He writes:
“There is no good or bad without us, there is only perception. There is the event itself and the story we tell ourselves about what it means.”
Remember, even the worst-case scenario of being rejected isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Why? Because the process of asking out your crush gave you the clarity necessary to create a path forward in life. Marcus Aurelius said it best:
“Choose not to be harmed — and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed, and you haven’t been.”
I like this concept because it teaches mental resilience. A harsh truth of life is that not everything will go to plan. However, choosing not to be harmed (even in the worst-case scenario of rejection) can allow you to adapt your plans to new circumstances.
How can I prepare myself to ask out my crush?
Everybody has different ways of telling someone that they’re in love. My personal favorite is to look them in the eyes, gently brush their hair back behind their shoulders, and just say whatever comes from the heart.
But there are hundreds, even thousands, of ways to tell someone you are in love with them. So admittedly, it’s going to take a little bit of experimentation on your part to find what works for you.
Just remember that confidence is key. Plan out what you are going to say, how you’re going to say it, and practice until you have perfected it to the best of your ability.
After all, the last thing you’d want is to be unsure of how to tell your crush you’re in love with them after months of debating whether to keep it a secret or not.
No matter the outcome, be proud of yourself. Use this moment as an opportunity to gain clarity on your emotions, overcome your fear of rejection, and create a future of unlimited possibility.
I’m going to leave you with one more quote from Marcus Aurelius, who perfectly speaks about being in control of any situation when attempting to overcome fear:
“You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you shall find strength.”
You can do this.