Five Ways To Know If Someone Truly Loves You

Matt Lillywhite

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“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.”— Roy Croft

What does true love mean to you?

Loving and caring for each other? Transparency regarding your emotions? Or simply being grateful for every second spent with your partner?

Love is an emotion innate to the human spirit. Despite there being over 7.5 billion people on the planet, many of us are single, alone, and longing for somebody to call our lover.

According to a report by the US census, approximately 110 million people in America are unmarried or single. To put that into perspective, it’s equivalent to over 45% of the country’s population.

You clicked on this story for a reason. Maybe you’re trying to understand if your crush likes you back, or why your partner is acting strangely.

I’m not here to judge you.

Instead, I’m going to give you some actionable tips that can be immediately implemented to understand your partner’s emotions better.

Ready? Let’s begin.

How Do They Make You Feel?

“When I wake up in the morning, I am thinking of you. When I go to sleep at night, I am thinking of you. And all those hours in between, I think of us.” Unknown

One of the fascinating aspects of living in the modern world is undoubtedly the ability to speak with anyone on the planet. So whether you’re on vacation, or missing the sound of their voice, we have the opportunity to talk to them via Facetime & other platforms.

How incredible is that?

Perhaps they’re on your mind as you go to sleep and the first thought which comes into your head upon waking up.

Maybe you enjoy texting them about your plans for the future until the early hours of the morning. Or they give you a warm, fuzzy feeling which makes you astonishingly happy.

You are in love.

How Do You Know They Feel The Same?

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” Marcus Aurelius

It’s a tricky question to answer.

As you will be aware, people have different desires & needs when it comes to relationships. Unfortunately, there is no “one size fits all” solution.

For example, some people will want a long-term monogamous partnership with the eventual goal of marriage. In contrast, others may aspire to have polyamorous relationships with no specific long-term commitments.

Throughout my adult life, I’ve been in several relationships that didn’t work out for this very reason: we did not communicate when going into it.

As a direct consequence, the relationships went up in flames immediately after disagreements concerning our desires for the future.

Ultimately, you need to have excellent communication with your partner, so you’re able to understand each other’s wishes for the relationship.

How To Understand Their Intentions

Love is the attempt to form a friendship inspired by beauty.” — Marcus Tullius Cicero

This topic can be extremely subjective, so I’ll try to keep it short & sweet. After all, everyone conveys their emotions differently.

First, define what “love” means to each of you. Create an environment which is transparent, honest, and genuine for you both to share your thoughts. Some questions to consider may include:

  • What are your definitions of a happy relationship?
  • How do you each prefer to display affection for the other person?
  • When do you want to be intimate? And what type of sex do you prefer?

Take the time to truly explore what a healthy relationship means to each other and the best way for you both to progress forward. Once you can be empathetic to their desires, it’ll be much easier to create a framework which emphasizes the strengths of each person.

5 Ways To Know If Someone Truly Loves You

“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.” — William Shakespeare

If you’re looking to understand the emotions of your partner, you’re in the right place. Below are some useful tips for recognizing your lover’s level of affection in a relationship.

Here we go.

They Love To Make You Feel Optimistic

The skill to boost your partner’s self-esteem during a relationship is critical.After all, during any times of significant adversity or sadness, it’s good to know that you have someone who will always attempt to make you feel better.

This doesn’t mean they should suck up to you and agree with everything you say. However, if they can voluntarily be a shoulder to cry on or someone you feel confident talking to during tough times, they likely care about you and the relationship which you both have.

They Show Respect For Your Opinions

It’s normal to get into arguments and disagreements throughout a relationship. However, a crucial element of your connection should be the respect you have for each other.

Maybe you’re on opposite sides of the political spectrum, or perhaps you both differ in music taste. Whatever the case, it’s essential to respect each other’s personality and the views in which your partner holds.

They Make Eye Contact When Having A Conversation

This one is pretty well known. If they are making consistent eye contact throughout the conversation, it tends to suggest that they enjoy spending time with you, and remain emotionally invested in the discussion.

In contrast, those who may be on their phones while talking, or continuously looking away may have their mind pre-occupied with something else.

They Want To Be Affectionate

Some people are nervous about showing public displays of affection (and that’s okay). However, when you are spending time alone with each other, their body language can tell a lot about their emotions towards you.

Quoting an article written by Jeremy Nicholson Ph.D. in Psychology Today, positive body language can include “leaning in towards you, feet pointing towards you and wiggling happily, legs uncrossed and comfortable, arms open and palms up, playfully fondling jewelry or hair, smiling, extended eye contact, or looking down shyly.”

If your partner is frequently displaying any of the above body languages, it’s an optimistic sign that they genuinely care about you.

They Passionately Discuss Memories

The majority of couples around the world tend to enjoy speaking fondly of memories such as a vacation or day trip. If they love talking about past times, it tends to psychologically imply that you are regularly on their mind, and play a crucial role in their level of happiness.

So keep creating beautiful memories, and live every day together as if it were your last.

I’m going to leave you with a quote from Seneca, who perfectly writes about the importance of empathy & compassion within relationships:

“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood”.

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