4 Ways To Make Someone Want To Date You

Matt Lillywhite

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How often do you find yourself wanting to improve your dating life?

It’s a common problem that many people face. After all, you want to be in an incredible relationship, live each day with a sense of gratitude, and spend the rest of your life with someone you love.

We often wonder how we can look more attractive in the eyes of those we meet. But if you want to have a healthy relationship, you also need to consider other qualities that will make people want to be in your life. In the words of Marilyn Monroe:

“Beauty only gets attention, but personality captures the heart.”

So below are several ways to become more attractive, which have nothing to do with physical appearance. Each one of these insights helped me to improve my dating life, and I’m sure they will do the same for you, too.

Take A Genuine Interest In Other People.

I used to struggle with having conversations due to negative thoughts from anxiety constantly entering my mind. The truth is that I was afraid of others judging me for the insecurities I saw in myself. So instead of talking to new people, I’d often stand in a lonely corner of the room and be alone with my thoughts.

I knew that something had to change. So I began reading loads of books on psychology, as I wanted to create meaningful relationships & improve the quality of my social life.

One of the biggest takeaways I learned was that people enjoy talking about themselves more than other people. Because when you take a genuine interest in the lives of other people, they will probably reciprocate and take an interest in yours.

For example, if you’re on a date, and don’t know what to say, it’s a good idea to ask questions about their interests. After all, it allows them to associate things they enjoy with your conversation.

So if you want to improve your dating life, start with simple steps such as asking open-ended questions, and maintaining eye contact during every conversation. Because when you take a genuine interest in the lives of other people, you’ll notice they want to be around you much more frequently.

Improve Your Confidence.

If you don’t learn to control your fears, you’ll often find that they get in control of you. For example, I used to be scared of approaching people due to a fear of rejection, which made me feel like I wasn’t “good enough” to be in a relationship.

I’m sure that you’ve experienced something similar. Because if you’re anything like my past-self, you can’t help but feel insecure about the way you look, or anything else that prevents you from finding the right person.

It’s no secret that a lot of people find confidence to be incredibly attractive. So if you want to find the perfect partner, it’s vital to overcome fear and become the type of person you want to be.

I’ve found that simple steps such as improving your posture and doing something new are an excellent place to begin. Because if you can become a little bit more confident each day, the power of compound interest will undoubtedly improve your mindset over time.

Practice Honesty.

If you want to improve your dating life, practicing honesty is certainly a good habit to start. After all, it’s much better to have a relationship built on trust instead of lies.

So in any given situation, I try to be honest with everyone I meet. Because although the truth is sometimes uncomfortable, I’ve found that people respect me a lot more as I’m willing to say how I genuinely feel. Jenny O’Connell said it best:

“Hiding how you really feel and trying to make everyone happy doesn’t make you nice, it just makes you a liar.”

Honesty is a rare quality that anyone you meet will certainly appreciate. Because when you follow through with promises & are truthful about how you feel, every aspect of your relationships will change for the better.

Embrace Your Flaws.

A great truth of life is that every single person on the planet has imperfections. But I’ve found that a great solution is to accept the things you cannot change, so you can focus on what you can.

For example, I know that I’m not the most handsome person in the world. I can’t change that. But what I can change is my diet, fitness, and other aspects of my life that have the power to improve my appearance.

When you embrace who you are, you’ll spend a lot less time judging yourself and comparing your life to other peoples. So instead of wishing for things to be different, you can focus all of your energy on the things that genuinely matter. In the words of Steve Maraboli:

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”

So every day, ask yourself: “What actions can I take right now to become the type of person that my ideal partner would find attractive?”

That’s all you need to do.

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