“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” — Mahatma Gandhi
If you want to be more attractive, courageous, and self-sufficient, where is the best place to start?
Maybe it’s searching through dozens of YouTube tutorials on posture & body language.
Alternatively, maybe it’s reading twelve self-help books on understanding the psychology behind dialogue and what makes a great conversation.
To me, the answer is pretty clear: confidence.
It’s what separates the shy from the brave. It’s that inner feeling of motivation which enables you to go out & accomplish anything you choose.
As Mark Twain said:
“A man cannot be confident without his own approval.”
This characteristic is something which has fueled my happiness over the past 3 years. Aged 18, I moved to Australia with the belief that I could make things work — despite only having a minuscule amount of money in my bank account. Aged 20, I traveled to over 14 countries and ended up creating a full-time income from my passion.
However, I’m not here to talk about my past successes. Because confidence is a universal characteristic that (almost) anyone can apply to their own lives.
So how can you become more likable? Read below.
More Kindness, Less Judgment.
“The best answer to anger is silence.” — Marcus Aurelius
If you want to be more likable, you must first start by liking others. Every single person on the planet has their flaws & imperfections. So if you can accept them, others reciprocate.
When you develop the ability to understand the rationale behind somebody’s anger, it allows you to empathize with their circumstances to create common ground.
Ask Great Questions.
“Knowledge is having the right answer. Intelligence is asking the right question.” — Anonymous
Being inquisitive about people’s lives can help to develop strong bonds, friendships, and establish common ground with others.
The truth is that people love talking about themselves. So listen, take mental notes of what they say during the conversation, and ask more about their favorite topics. You’ll be surprised at how positively people react when it becomes obvious you’re genuinely listening to what they have to say.
Greet People By Their Preferred Name.
“Words are easy, like the wind. Faithful friends are hard to find.” — William Shakespeare.
In his book How To Win Friends And Influence People, Dale Carnegie says that “the average person is more interested in their name than in all the other names in the world put together.”
When you meet somebody, don’t be afraid to include their first name several times during a conversation. Even if it’s just during the opening greeting, we can make others feel extremely valued when saying their name.
Make A Great First Impression.
“Your smile is your logo, your personality is your business card, and how you leave others after an experience with you becomes your trademark.” — Jay Danzie.
Most people decide if they like you within the first few seconds of meeting you. Think about it.
We all know somebody who doesn’t like talking to others, never makes eye contact and wants to escape the presence of human beings. As a result, they make a terrible first impression on those they meet.
Making a lasting impression is integral to your likability. So look people in the eye, give a firm handshake (or embrace them with a hug), and display positive body language to ensure that people want to see you again.
“A warm smile is the universal language of kindness.” — William Arthur Ward
People tend to be more attached if you choose to emulate positive body language of the other person. So if you lightly smile during a conversation while making eye contact, it creates a level of social intimacy and bonding.
I’m going to leave you with a quote from Oprah Winfrey:
“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.”
You’ve got this.