It was not easy for me to leave the girl I loved. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, but she proved to be toxic. Throughout my life, I have heard my mom saying “Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.” I did not believe her until I met a girl in high school. She was beautiful, tall, and slim. She had all the characteristics a boy would want in his girlfriend or wife.
With time, I developed a strong relationship with her. She used to visit me at home and looked quite appealing and supportive to me. I was proved wrong when I spent nearly two years with her.
A toxic life partner
My nights became haunted after leaving her. The situation didn’t change until I consulted a psychiatrist.
Trust me, I am not lying. She was toxic and her behavior made me sad all the time. I wanted to spend more and more time with her, but she began showing the following signs that made it clear to me that it was the right time to move on.
Toxic people are often irresponsible and selfish
The worst person to be around is somebody who complains about everything and appreciates nothing.
I didn’t realize this when I fell in love with her. I tried everything needed to keep such a beautiful young girl. However, when you deal with these types of people, you don’t feel happy. Unhappiness was brought to my relationship. Research says that loving someone or having a romantic relationship adds a sense of well-being to one’s life, but there was nothing like this in my life.
The problem with irresponsible and selfish people is that they focus on their own needs or requirements. They immediately ignore something or someone that does not serve the purpose. They make their decisions and don’t bother to think if these decisions will affect them or someone else.
Toxic people remain angry
I have found someone saying:
For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.
Toxic people are definitely difficult to be with. This is because they find one way or the other to stress you out. My girlfriend used to remain angry. For example, when I didn’t get her a good gift or forgot her birthday, she began showing strange behavior. I don’t think this is the quality of a good and sensible person.
When you are with a toxic person, you will feel hopeless and helpless. You will want to escape, but it is not always possible for us especially when we have tied the knot with toxic individuals. Toxic individuals have no problem taking their bad mood out on us and the worst part is that they will play the victim.
Toxic individuals are dishonest
The greatest truth is honesty, and the greatest falsehood is dishonesty.
It is a big one. A dishonest person can never give you a good life. You cannot plan your future with them, as they will cheat on your anytime. The same happened to me. After dating me for several months, my girlfriend decided to marry a well-established guy. She said that her parents wanted her to settle in life. I could understand the feelings of her parents, but I was not happy with the idea that she didn’t want to tell them about my proposal. This clearly showed her dishonesty.
When you are with such a person, you will always feel hopeless because you never know when they will leave you alone. Trust is not developed, and after several days or weeks, the relationship will end. Toxic people cheat on you without a second thought.
In my dreams, I climbed staircases and jumped from the top of my roof. I once woke up in the middle of the night because of a headache. It took me a lot of time to forget that girl and to forget what she did to me. She was not a ghost, but her screaming and angry face looked the same.
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