It has now been proved that even the best and most successful relationships can have problems. Some of these issues can easily be resolved, while others require a great amount of time, effort, and dedication. But as someone said “The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said,” we should be able to listen to our partner and must be ready to solve the problems with them. Leaving the partner alone or trying to move on is not the solution to any problem.
Good communication can be difficult, but it is the only way to live peacefully and happily with your partner.
Here is how to tackle difficult conversations with your partner.
Listen to your partner
Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, as well as a creative force.
The partner or friend who listens to you is the one you can move on with. When you are listened to, it will create you and make you unfold and expand. You should learn to listen and expect the same from your partner. The idea is to sit with them, discuss matters and be friendly. There is no need to get panic. I don’t think there is any problem in the world that can’t be solved with communication. You just need to be a good listener. This will allow you to understand their viewpoint and will lead you to the stage where you can develop an understanding.
Be clear about what you want and how you feel
Everything begins with language, and language begins with listening and the power to tell things clearly.
Whether you love your partner or not, you should always try to communicate with them politely and be a little humble so that they can understand you. It is a common observation that some people confuse things a lot, and this leads their partners to get frustrated. I suggest you be clear about what you want, how you feel, and how you want to take things further with your partner. Once you convey your message clearly, it will be easy for you to build trust.
Look at the problem from your partner’s perspective
We can never solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.
You should understand that you can be wrong at some points. Maybe, the way you are trying to solve certain problems is good for nothing. Maybe, you are committing big mistakes. So it is important to be understanding and look at the issue from your partner’s perspective. This will be possible only when you listen to them, tell them what you have in your mind, and then try to look at things from an entirely different angle.
Take a break
Disconnect yourself from the world for some time, freshen up yourself and reconnect.
If the conversation is not going well, you should take a break. Please don’t get depressed and don’t make your partner feel bad. Instead, you should leave the room where they are sitting or are present and don’t interact with them for a few hours or a day. Things will be fine once you become calm. If your behavior is good, your partner may come to you to restart the conversation.
Sometimes things don’t get changed all of a sudden. They need time, patience, and mutual efforts. You should not take any tension when the conversation becomes difficult. Instead, you should sit silently for some time, go to the partner, listen and understand them and promise that you won’t repeat the mistake that may have caused the problem for both of you. If the issue has been caused due to your partner, they should also say sorry and move on with you happily.