The Choice to Accomplish or Get Lost in the Crowd is Yours

Marilyn Regan

We often hear people say, “Somebody ought to do this. Somebody ought to do that.”

Maybe they should.

But first, there’s something you should do. Look in the mirror. Somebody is looking back at you. That’s because you are somebody. So am I. So are the people you live and work with and all those people stuck in their cars in a traffic jam.

Activists stand out on the street because somebodies are everywhere. We are one of them.

We somebodies can make a big difference in the world.

The somebodies are also the doers who reap the benefits in life.

What are you really saying?

What you’re really saying when you say somebody should do something is that somebody else should take responsibility, but not you.

We see something that needs correcting, trash on the street, or a wrong that needs to be righted, and we freely offer our opinion. In essence, we are complaining, not only that the thing still exists but that others have failed to see it and correct it.

It’s a criticism. And we are exempt from the solution.

But you know what? It works both ways. Those who do, receive. When it comes to someone accomplishing or getting that lucky break, like the dream job or that winning lottery ticket, the people that get them are the ones who are not waiting for somebody else to take action.

It’s not a coincidence.

Are you starting to see the connection?

Step up or sit down

Life is a bit like a parade.

You can be the somebody who jumps in and makes the journey, or you can be the somebody who stands on the sidelines and waves as it goes by. The people in the parade will see more and go places someone sitting or standing on the sidelines never will.

Look around. Take note of the people who are around you, those others who have chosen to watch the parade go by. If you like where you are, don’t do a thing.

Enjoy it and don’t complain. But come to grips with the fact that if you’re going to sit on your ass, then nothing in your life is going to change.

The people in the parade are the ones that don’t expect other people to do what needs to be done. They don't talk, they take action. And in return, they get breaks and opportunities in life.

When you are active, stuff happens. It's the law of attraction and it makes sense. The doers are moving and attracting things into their lives. You can get them, too, but you’ve got to participate. Make an effort.

Get up and walk a few miles and engage in this thing called life.

You can always take a time out and sit on the side to catch your breath. And when you do, you’ll have new experiences that you can share.

Why are you sitting there?

We are where we are for a reason. We made decisions along the way. We changed our minds. We worked with what life did or didn’t give us. It’s a learning process and no one is exempt.

Maybe we’re entitled and feel everything should be given to us, that it is everyone else’s responsibility to find the solutions. But that’s not how things are resolved.

Nothing is more irritating than a complainer who can dissect the problem but not offer one iota of advice on how to fix it. Just shut-up. You’re not helping.

Or maybe we feel stuck. I think that’s the majority of us. And yes, I feel stuck, too. Stuck in a job that’s like herding cats, well-educated, accomplished, and entitled. It’s how I pay bills.

But I want to write. I want to make enough so I can give notice that it’s time for a new cat herder. So, I’ve joined the parade. I get off my butt and in front of a computer, and often, I trudge along.

I want to be somebody in that parade. It’s not too late for me, and it’s not too late for you.

It’s never too late to be somebody

The world is full of somebodies who stayed in the parade and persisted. Read and be inspired.

Martha Stewart
Martha Stewart’s first real success didn’t come until she was 41. She went to prison for conspiracy and then relaunched. Successfully.

Vera Wang
Vera Wang was a former figure skater and fashion editor who decided that she wanted to be a designer. She opened her first bridal boutique at the age of 40.

Duncan Hines
Yes, the Duncan Hines cake company was named after someone. He licensed the right to use his name for the company that formulated Duncan Hines cake mixes. Age 73.

Henry Ford
This man needs no introduction. But did you know he was an engineer most of his life? He built the Model T in 1908 at the age of 45.

Viola Davis
Viola Davis is an actress and producer. She won an Academy Award, Emmy Award, and two Tonys. She starred in The Help as Aibileen and Maxson in Fences and was the star in the television series How to Get Away with Murder. Age: 49.

So you see, as long as you’re alive, you can be the somebody you want to be. Or you can be the somebody who doesn’t see that work and opportunity go hand in hand.

Whatever you decide, know that it is your decision.

If you’re going to be apart of the audience and not the parade, then please put some good vibes out there. It will do a lot toward making the world a better place.

Photo by Razvan Chisu on Unsplash

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Marilyn is a writer, yogi, spiritual medium and animal lover. She is a Bostonian in every sense and has the accent to prove it. She loves the ocean, the outdoors, wine, and sleeping in. She days what she means and doesn't waste words. Finally, she is mother to one son, two cats and has three grandchildren.


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