**This is a work of nonfiction sourced via social media discussion boards cited within the article. **
A married adult woman is sick and tired of being at her mother’s beck and call. Leading her own life keeps her plenty busy and she’s not always available to take her mother’s calls. Unfortunately, her mother sees this differently. The young woman is quick to state that in the past she and her mother were particularly close and that they do speak or text frequently.
However, In a recent posting on Reddit, a young woman of 33 is fed up with her mother monopolizing her time. Her mother calls or texts her multiple times each day and if she doesn’t answer the phone or return her mother’s texts then her mother will call or text even more. Sometimes she is busy with the kids or simply doesn’t take the time to check her phone.
At one point in time, the OP is out shopping with a friend when the friend's phone rings. It’s the Ops mother who managed to track down the Ops friend and get her number from the Ops husband. The mother had only met this particular friend one time and it was very embarrassing to the OP to have to take the call in such a situation.
At what point does her mother’s seeking confirmation that her daughter is okay does it become stalking? Is it a mother’s right to pester her daughter to this point? Keep in mind that the daughter is an adult, lives in her own home, and has 2 young children of her own. Is her mother being overbearing? Does her mother have a trauma bond that needs to be broken? Or, is her mother just a lonely old woman who wants to lead her life vicariously through her daughter?
The daughter has set some pretty reasonable boundaries and is simply trying to lead her own life. When confronted with her overbearing behavior, her mother defended herself stating that the daughter has had medical issues in the past so her mother has reason to be concerned. What do you think? Does her mother have the right to continually text and call her daughter and should she be concerned? Or, should her mother give her some space and allow her to lead her own life?
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