This is my first article so I thought it would be helpful to tell you a little bit about myself and my goals for 2021. Hopefully my intentions inspire you as you start fresh and make your "resolutions" this year.
My entire life, I've been a people pleaser. I always try to make everyone happy and am ultra sensitive when things don't go my way. I've also always been pretty good at balancing my full time job and side hustles. I usually take on too much, but always find a way to get the job done (even if that means less sleep and more anxiety).
I enjoy working out, eat pretty healthy during the daytime and then typically treat myself with food that I love for dinner or when I eat out (ie: sushi, chicken parm, chinese food, you name it!). That is not changing. What is changing is the way I approach different situations.
1. Be more present.
If COVID has taught me one thing, it's to live in the moment. While we all want to plan our next vacation or milestone, sometimes you can't. Things just happen in life and that's okay. Isn't there that saying "You plan, God Laughs?". Well jokes over! Let's just live.
I am also making it a goal to cut my screentime down 25% from last year. This is going to be extremely hard, as I am the global communications director at beauty brand, while running multiple social media accounts, and now, contributing to News Break. I am also becoming addicted to TikTok, so there's that.
Some tips I plan to test out:
- Don't look at your phone 30 minutes to an hour before bed.
- Leave your phone outside the room when you're doing a workout (and if you need it for music, mute your email/texts).
- Read actual books vs. sitting on your phone, scrolling through social media.
- Put your phone on the charger and don't look at it while watching a show.
- Listen to music or a podcast in the car instead of sitting on your phone (assuming you're not driving!) or even better, have a converation with the driver!
2. Stop comparing yourself to others.
It's so easy to get caught up in other people's lives, especially on social media! Every single person on this earth is different, and has their own needs, goals and path. It's great to look to others for inspiration, aspirations and advice, but it's important to take a step back and analyze your growth. If you aren't happy with where you are in life, then do something about it.
During quarantine I started to make a bunch of cooking videos/recipes and kept comparing myself to other influencers who film with professional video cameras, tripods and have a full lighting set-up. They are also full-time content creators, so makes sense why their videos look better than mine. I am making it a goal to invest in the proper equipment and practice recipes before filming them, but it's not going to happen overnight. I have accepted that it takes practice, and I may never be the best.
- Make a list of things you want out of the new year. I'd make a tangible list of accesible goals and then a "reach for the stars" list.
- Network with as many people as possible and rekindle old relationships.
- Find a hobby that you are passionate about that you can succeed at. People think success is only measured by monetary rewards, but it should also be measured by happiness.
3. Maintain a healthy lifestyle, all year round.
Looking at my social media account, you'd think I eat crap all day and have a fast metabolism. Not true, and I recently started to post about my workouts, beauty routine and healthy meals that I eat during the day, so I can indulge in the good stuff that tastes and photographs better! It's all about moderation.
- Find workouts you love and don't settle on just one type. I enjoy yoga, pilates and sculpt classes. My favorite virtual ones at the moment are from AMP Studio. I also used to hate spinning, but am obsessed with Peleton. I love all of the classes, teachers and music. It's also great to ride with friends and family who have bikes, especially during COVID times.
- Go for walks! Whether you're in the suburb or the city, grab your headphones and listen to a podcast/music and just walk. It's also a great time to catch-up on phone calls (or take your work calls from outside!), especially while you're still WFH.
- Don't diet, but rather, portion control.
- Cook more and have fun with it.
4. Be a little more selfish.
As I mentioned earlier, I am a people pleaser. I am overly responsive to texts/email and get annoyed when people don't reply in a timely manner. I've been better at being more understanding about other people's lag and urgency, factoring in that they may be working on something more important or they just don't want to answer when I send them a message. It's something I struggle with, but I really need/want to work on.
While we're on this topic. Me time is so important! Here's things I get pleasure in doing alone:
- Walks (same tips as above!)
- Listen to podcasts/audio books.
- Binge watch (I have a few shows like Gilmore Girls, The Crown, Virgin River) that I watch without my husband.
- Meditate (I don't do this, but am going to try to this year!)
- Retail therapy (not spending money at the moment, but this is something that really makes me happy, especially when it's a good deal!)
5. Stand up for what you believe in.
I try to support as many charities and causes as possible. I am not giving up on the restaurant industry. I've been doing my best, within my means, to help and support as many as I can in NYC/Long Island whether it's buying gift cards, sharing their social media posts or donating to ROAR NY. Dave Portnoy of Barstool Sports started The Barstool Fund which you can also help support.
I've also been standing up against racial injustice and anti-semitism on my social media platforms. We've made some progress with the BLM movement, and a lot of the country took a stance, but there are still many minorities that are being targeted, particularly Jews. It's a shame that very little people are talking about it. Did you know that Jews only make up 1.8% of the US population, but they were the target of 60.3% of hate crimes motivated by religious bias? This is a stat that the FBI released for 2019.
Did you catch this horrific TikTok trend about creators playing dead holocaust victims? The point being is, we need more aware about the rise of anti-semitism in America. In 2021 I am going to continue to be more vocal about this, because ALL HATE, cancel culture and negativity NEEDS to stop, in order for us to move forward as an equal society.
- Find a cause you are passionate about.
- Use your platform for good.
- Have uncomfortable conversations with friends and family.
- Educate yourself and see all sides of the story.
Best of luck with your 2021 goals! Shoot me an email: Lauren@eatsandthecity.com or DM me @eats.and.the.city to share your tips and advice for being a better version of you in 2021!
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