In life, we are faced with a myriad of different challenges and situations which seem to threaten our very existence.
These include emotional crises (such as dealing with the death of someone close), physical pain (like from illness or injury), and mental anguish (like anxiety over finances). Each one can be tough to handle independently without the added stressor of uncertainty in dealing with them.
But there is an answer – radical responsibility.
You have probably heard the word radical used in a variety of ways. It is commonly associated with things that are extreme or revolutionary. However, when we use this word, we mean something completely different than what you may be accustomed to hearing about. Our definition of radical responsibility is based on the philosophy of personal and social change developed by philosopher Albert Cappello.
Radical responsibility is an idea that each person has within their power to change something about their life. This may be as big as ending world hunger or as small as finding a solution for dandruff. It doesn’t matter if you want to get the job done in 10 minutes or 10 years - you can still do it!
Essentially, this concept means being aware that you are responsible for your life and the decisions you make.
Take Responsibility For Your Thoughts
When something goes wrong, do you immediately assume the worst? Or maybe you're positive that events will turn out in your favor. While this may sound like a strange question, it's actually an effective way of assessing your attitude towards life.
For example: When bad things happen, and they are beyond your control, how do you feel about them? Do you tend to blame others for these situations or take responsibility for them yourself?
Of course, we all have bad days when nothing seems to go right. But if this happens regularly, then there is probably an underlying issue with one's attitude towards life and success. To make progress in any area of our lives, we first need to take full responsibility for what is happening now rather than simply bruising it under the rug.
Self-reflection is a skill that most people don’t exercise enough. This can be scary, but not as scary as being unable to reflect on anything in your life. It takes bravery and courage to look into the mirror without getting judgemental or defensive about what you see when you take responsibility for your thoughts.
Take Responsibility for Your Feelings
We all have our bad days. Sometimes you are sad, anxious, or frustrated for no apparent reason. The good news is that there are ways to manage your emotions and prevent them from taking over your life.
I know that many people don’t like to take responsibility for their feelings. They blame other people or things, and they treat their feelings like something “out there” – separate from them.
Taking responsibility for your emotions is one of the most important things you can do. It’s a way to take control and improve your life.
Responsibility is a handy tool when you are trying to improve yourself in any area of your life. Instead of blaming others for why something happened (or didn't happen), take responsibility for how you feel within a particular situation and look at what could have been done better on your part.
A lot of people blame other people for their feelings. I'm afraid that's not right. You need to understand that you control your own emotions and how you react to the things around you.
I know that blaming other people for your feelings or not taking responsibility is an easy way out. It’s a habit that you may have developed during childhood when the causes of your problems were often outside of your control. But, in the long run, it’s much more productive to take charge of how you feel and be accountable for what happens next!
The good news is that you choose how you react to things, especially negative situations.
A bad day at work, a flat tire, even an annoying comment on your social media page can leave you feeling upset. How we react to these situations is important because it defines how we deal with stress as adults. Learning how to control our reactions to these types of scenarios can be difficult and takes practice. However, there are some things that you can do to help yourself better handle negative emotions and stressful encounters as they happen.
When negative things happen, we have a pretty universal response: to get defensive or angry. While these are natural reactions, you’ll be more successful in life if you can control them.
The first step is recognizing that this is normal behavior and that everyone experiences it from time to time. Studies show the direct correlation between anger and an increase in cortisol levels, also known as the stress hormone. So what do you do when something triggers your reaction?
Here’s a quick step-by-step process that will help you take responsibility for your emotions:
1. Know what you're feeling.
2. Acknowledge how you feel.
3. Accept your feelings as valid and real.
4. Take responsibility for your feelings.
5. Choose a positive action that will make you feel better like exercising, meditating, or spending time with loved ones.
Take Responsibility for Your Actions
What makes the topic of responsibility so challenging? We are all connected. We have to take some form of personal accountability for our actions because we know that they will affect someone else somehow.
There are times when it can be difficult to identify what is really your fault and what isn’t, but ultimately, being responsible means taking action towards making amends, whether you feel like it or not.
If you make a mistake, own up to it. Be honest with yourself about your mistakes and be willing to learn from them. Don't blame others for your failures or shortcomings. Take responsibility for the consequences of your actions.